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Something I love about the South is the slower way of life here that reminds me of what’s most important. The smell of the magnolia blooms and the hum of bees on my crepe myrtles makes me take a deep breath in and forget the stresses of life. Fireflies make my email inbox suddenly seem unimportant. Driving by the cow farms on the way to the grocery store takes my heart to a place where nothing matters but family, deep friendships and the simple joys all around us.

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Dear brides, my wish for you today and always is that the sweetness of the South would sink into your soul as you plan for your very special important day. May you take a moment to slow down in the hustle and bustle of planning and remember what’s most important.

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So often, I see the statement, “You need ___ for your wedding.” The truth is, you don’t actually need anything at your wedding except your love and someone to marry you. The rest is up to you and what matters most to you. Favors and decorations are not obligations, but rather things you choose to celebrate your love together. You make the rules for your big day and how you want to honor your story, your family and your guests. Choose what matters most to you.

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Forget your wedding Pinterest board for a just a moment and picture you and your love 50 years from now, enjoying a Southern sunset together, sharing a glass of cold sweet tea. What will you want to remember most about your wedding? What will matter then? You will remember the things that truly came from your heart. The flowers and favors and cake take on a whole new meaning when they are truly a reflection of your two hearts becoming one.

Photo by Jamie Clayton via Southern Weddings

Give your hearts a break from planning this week and drink in the summer sun. There are so many things in the South that can help to remind you of the simple joys in life. Our Southern #SummerDoin list is a great place to start! Tell me — what simple joys do you love about the South? I’d love to hear from you. One lucky commenter will get a Love Notes Notepad from the Southern Weddings Shop!

CONGRATS to the winner from my last post, Dana! Dana, please email Lisa and she’ll get your South print to you right away!

Adam Barnes is a delightful member of our Blue Ribbon Vendor Directory!

lara Written with love by Lara Casey
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  1. avatar May reply

    I absolutely love this post and couldn’t agree more! It is the perfect reminder for every bride!

  2. avatar Patti reply

    I love LOVE sitting on my best friend’s porch looking out over the Gulf watching the birds dive for fish and the mullets jump in the water with all our grown kids there, just “visiting” – talking about old times, old friends, new experiences and catching up – without cell phones or Ipads on our laps. We always tell the same old stories again but nobody seems to care and there’s a lot of laughter.

  3. avatar Jessica S. reply

    Nothing makes me believe more in the fact that God is pursuing my heart than the smell of Spring in the South. I absolutely love walking outside on those first days of Spring and feeling my whole body smile at the smell of flowers and trees blooming!

  4. avatar Ashley McGee reply

    I love that when I came home from work too tired to fix supper yesterday, my husband was perfectly satisfied eating pimento cheese sandiches with mason jars of cheerwine while we “unplugged” and watched a late afternoon shower roll in from our front porch. And it definitely doesnt hurt that Charleston is where we’re blessed enough to call home.

  5. avatar sarah reply

    the gulf coast. i love being on the water– its so simple, yet so magnificent– calming & energizing all at the same time.

  6. avatar Lucy Taylor reply

    I love this post! Can’t wait to share it with all of my brides as a dear reminder to focus on what matters most on their wedding day! Thank you Lara!

    I love front porch swinging. It allows you to slow down and meet your neighbors and really form lasting relationships with those around you.

  7. avatar Lauren reply

    Amen, Lara!

  8. avatar Anna reply

    i love lingering over meals with family and friends

  9. avatar Brittany Carr reply

    I read this post right after a stressful meeting with a caterer for my wedding – could not have asked for more perfect timing! Thanks for the much, much needed reminder.

    I love the unspoken hospitality of the South – everyone says “ma’am” and “sir”, men hold the door open for women, etc. It’s a feeling of respect that just makes you feel at home, instantly.

    • avatar Lara reply

      My pleasure! It’s so easy to get stressed with the details. Thinking of you! : )

  10. avatar Marcie reply

    Exactly the type of weddings I want to help couples design/create!!
    LOVE THIS Lara!

  11. avatar Kristy reply

    Swinging on my grandparents porch.

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It should come as no surprise that the wedding of For the Makers co-founder Janet was a perfect example of DIY-done-elegant — after all, through her genius business, this talented gal has subtracted the guesswork and multiplied the beauty of craft projects everywhere. (LOVE!) So even though her wedding to Collin was filled with DIY projects, from the dye-dipped napkins and table runners, to the watercolor invitations and custom wine labels, the chalkboard photo booth backdrop, Janet’s jewelry, and ALL the desserts, the end result is clean, sophisticated, and understated. Huge thanks to Julia Wade for capturing everything to perfection so we could share!

What a beautiful sentiment with which to start your wedding day!

Janet’s gorgeous necklace was actually featured as a DIY on For the Makers — find it here!

A lot of the music, both from the ceremony and reception, was really just songs that represent memories that we’ve shared. Many of the songs were later-year hits from the Beatles. I walked down the aisle to “Here, There and Everywhere,” and exited to “All You Need is Love.” We chose Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon” as our first dance because we love the song and we were married on the first day of fall (just after a harvest moon).

So many happy faces in a row!

How did y’all meet? Tell us your love story. We met in college. He sat in front of me in Art History. I asked him for pencils. The whole semester, he would turn around to look at a clock behind me, even though we both knew that he couldn’t actually see it from where he was sitting. On the last day of class, I asked him out for coffee. He said yes (and that he had wanted to do the same but was too shy) and we’ve been inseparable since. That was ten years ago.

I saw a Vera Wang dress in a magazine and thought it would absolutely be the one. I booked an appointment at the showroom along with a few other places in NYC, and my mom came up from North Carolina to help me look. The Vera Wang dress turned out to be a complete disaster — I took it off just as fast as I put it on. At the next location, I pulled several dresses from the racks, and the second one I put on made my mom start crying. I loved its simplicity and subtle structure. I slept on it and we went back the next day and bought it. I wasn’t a fan of the flutter sleeve that it originally had, so we had them alter the shoulder for a more streamlined look. After that change, I loved it even more.

Describe your wedding flowers. Natural, loosely arranged in pretty pale tones. Both the ceremony floral arrangements and the table arrangements were stunning. Each one was different and in a different vase/vessel. We included fruit and lots of foliage. We wanted it to feel natural and fit in with the gorgeous venue.

Get ready for your mouths to water, y’all…

Instead of a cake, we opted for cakes. My mother, an excellent baker, crafted more than a dozen cakes, plus cookies, truffles and macarons. The specific cake that we cut was a three-layer white velvet cake with milk chocolate buttercream icing, wrapped with French vanilla buttercream. It was topped off with a poured dark chocolate ganache. And it was the best cake ever.

Tell us all about the proposal! It was my birthday. We spent the day wandering around the city, shopping, eating and drinking. Hours later, we went to my favorite restaurant and ordered my favorite meal. On the way out to catch a cab, he asked me if I felt like the luckiest girl in New York City and I said yes. Then he said “will you make me the luckiest guy in New York City”? I turned around and he had knelt down on the sidewalk looking up at me with a cute box in his hand. I said yes before he could even open it or say anything else. All I remember saying was “oh my God” over and over again. I was shocked. After nine years of dating, you just don’t expect it. He asked me if I liked the ring and I realized I hadn’t even looked at it. It was gorgeous and perfect. We got into a cab and drove off to midtown to catch a Broadway show we had tickets for. After that, we met up with friends for celebratory drinks. It was the perfect day.
When did y’all get married? September 22nd, 2012
How many friends, family members, and loved ones attended your wedding? 170
Did you decide to do a “first look”? Why or why not? No, neither of us wanted to. Collin said the first time he wanted to see me was when I walked down the aisle. I felt the same way.
Our favorite detail of the wedding was: Our favorite details really sprang from my DIY skills. My mother, my bridesmaids and I worked to create one-of-a-kind pieces that tied in with the overall theme of the wedding. From dye-dipped napkins and table runners to watercolored invitations and custom wine labels, the wedding really reflected the warm, personal feel of an idea that was hand crafted. The ultimate centerpiece was a huge chalkboard that doubled as a photo booth backdrop and giant wedding card.
Did you have something borrowed, blue, old, and new? If so, do tell! On the inside of my dress, we sewed in one of my late Grandmother’s blue silk hair ribbons that I borrowed from my mom. So that covers everything!
What Southern details or traditions did you include in your celebration? What was Southern about your wedding? We heard it was good luck to bury a bottle of bourbon a month before the wedding so it wouldn’t rain. We did that. It absolutely worked. We had gorgeous weather and not one second after the last song ended, it started to rain. The next day, we dug the bourbon up and drank it, as all good Southerners would do.
What was the biggest challenge you had to overcome while planning your wedding? The biggest challenges when planning the wedding centered around our distance from the location. While the caterers, photographer, florists, and most importantly, our family members were busy planning and facilitating, we were hundreds of miles away in NYC. We both had fairly unforgiving schedules at the time, so finding our way down to meet and plan with all of the various folks that really pulled this day off proved to be incredibly challenging.
What is the one detail or vendor that you were so happy to have as a part of your wedding? Hands down, Julia was the best photographer we could have ever asked for. She was so warm and professional that she truly felt like a part of the bridal party by the end of the week. While all of our vendors were amazing to work with and blew away our expectations, Julia still managed to shine.
What was your most memorable moment about your wedding day? We both agree that our favorite moment was the walk down the aisle. Everything was perfect. Neither one of us have ever smiled half as hard as we were in that moment.
What’s next for you as a couple? What are you most looking forward to about married life? Just more of the same. Please and thanks.

Julia Wade is a delightful member of our Blue Ribbon Vendor Directory!

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Sara Velordi reply

    I love this – that dessert table is simply incredible! And I LOVE “For the Makers!

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Good morning, my dears! Emily and Marissa have had their turn sharing a little more of their style with our Dream Southern Summer Wedding series (here and here), so I’m excited to share mine with you! Don’t forget to keep an eye out for the rest of the SW gals’ dreamy ideas.

Summer is my very favorite season, so there’s no doubt I’ve been (secretly until now) dreaming up a wedding soiree based around my love for all citrus-colored things. In my mind, it looks like this:

Clockwise, from top left: Orange daiquiris via Pottery Barn, floral china photo by Emily Delamater, bouquet photo by Jose Villa, fabric favors photo by Melissa Jill Photography via Ruffled, bridesmaids dresses photo by Erik Ekroth via Style Me Pretty, oranges centerpiece photo by The Nichols via Southern Weddings, pinwheel photo by Tanja Lippert via Southern Weddings, ceremony photo by The Nichols via Southern Weddings.

The feel: Warm, vibrant and fun with a spin — think picnic meets black tie. We’ll say our vows by the lake and move in to the lawn for the reception. Though picnic blankets will be laid out across the lawn in lieu of tables, string lights, a black and white checkered dance floor and formal attire will dress the shindig up. The whole event will glow from the sunset.

The place: On the lawn by the water, so the light breeze blows through the ceremony and keeps everyone cool.

The time: 6:00 pm in early September, just in time for us to turn on the string lights as the reception begins and the sun goes down.

The style: Though I’ve yet to decide what I’m going to wear, I know my bridesmaids will be donning multicolored dresses, with my maid of honor in a pretty floral pattern, like the photo from my color inspiration. Though a laid-back picnic reception follows the ceremony, I plan to outfit the bridal party in formal floor length gowns (in breathable fabric, I promise!) and sharp grey suits with red suspenders.

The food: I have a much-warranted love for food trucks, so I’d have a selection of three lined up near the picnic area for guests to take their pick from. Of course, there will be classic North Carolina BBQ, savory pies and seafood. For dessert, my beau and I will cut into a cake for everyone to pair with the flavor of their choice from the ice cream truck!

The music: I loved how festive but relaxed the jazz bands were when I was in New Orleans, so I think a live jazz band with some soulful brass notes would be the perfect touch for this outdoor wedding. Of course, we’ll all dance under string lights!

The flowers: A happy mix of poppies and garden roses. My bouquet will be a slightly wild arrangement, with jasmine vine (my favorite!) sprouting from the sides. At the reception, small glass vases will hold single garden roses with a little bit of greenery to decorate the guest book table, the drinks station and the bourbon bar.

What do you think, ladies? What would YOUR dream Southern summer wedding look like?

nicoleyang Written with love by Nicole
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  1. avatar Lara reply

    I love this soooo much! Once you have your dream wedding here, I’ll happily step in and do a vow renewal with all the same stuff after! : )

  2. avatar Emily reply

    Love those earrings! Everything looks so bright + happy!!

  3. avatar Alexia reply

    Obsession… I want to attend this wedding! Looks like so much fun :)

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