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Happy New Year, belles! Those of y’all who are familiar with Southern Weddings and particularly our Editor-in-Chief, Lara Casey, can imagine that goals and resolutions are a big deal around here. We’ve been in a month-long process of setting company goals for the year, and we each set individual professional goals, too!

While it’s very important to us all that SW continue to grow and improve, we also all agree that in the end, the very best thing we could say at the end of 2015 is that our relationships with our significant others are stronger. A belief in the importance of strong marriage is at the very bedrock of the Sweet Tea Society and Southern Weddings, and it’s something we all try to live out every day. On that note, here’s a taste of the things we’ll be doing in the new year to cultivate truly beautiful relationships!

Lisa: This is it–the year Dave and I get married!! With just four months to go till the big day, my relationship goal is to keep our marriage at the forefront of our minds as we finish planning our wedding, and then to intentionally celebrate the little things once we settle into newlywed life. I never want to forget our first few days of living together, the first time I sign my new name, and the first traditions we create as husband and wife, and I want to soak in and appreciate everything I can about finally being married to my best friend!

Emily: This year, John and I have decided to tackle a year-long reading plan for the Bible together. I’m looking forward to hearing his insights, growing in our faith, and just spending more intentional time together!

Nicole: This year, Taylor and I are resolving to be more intentional with our time together and to create everyday adventures. The nature of Taylor’s job requires that he works seven days a week, often making it difficult for us to work in the activities we’d love to take part in (or even find a date night). Also, in looking back at the past year, we realized that we had no memorable moments from the first few months of the year, and that we often hit the New Year with a sense of working with our heads down, instead of celebrating each day. Time to change all of that, slowly but surely!

Kristin: As we turn the page into 2015, we look forward to a fresh start and a year that promises to bring exciting adventures and new challenges for #TeamKyleandKristin. We will be focusing on family and faith as we plan for the year ahead. First, we will be making a concerted effort to love on family and friends through thoughtful and regular communication and intentional quality time. Through our first few years of marriage, we have learned just how valuable our family and friends are and how these relationships help nurture and deepen our love for one another. Second, we have been challenged by our small group to focus on praying bold prayers and expanding our prayer life. We want to start keeping a documented list of these bold prayers as part of our family legacy. And for fun, we want to find a cooking class or two to take together–to enhance our skills, further our education and expand our culturalization!

Marissa: 2014 proved to be quite a crazy year for our little family, and I’m sure 2015 will bring its own adventures. This year, BDK and I plan to carve out some time to go on more dates (even family dates – we love taking our girl to the park or walking around the outside shopping center we have near our home). We plan to pray with EKK more, and teach her just how loved she is through our actions toward her, and toward each other. And, we plan to celebrate more. (KNW will love this one!) With a new baby, our own birthdays and our anniversary slipped through the cracks a bit. This year, we’ll be celebrating those, and many more big and small events!

Lara: 2015 is likely going to be a big year for us as our family grows, so our priority is keeping our marriage as number 1! Ari and I both have busy work schedules and a busy three-year-old, so making time just for us is really important. This means pre-planning and blocking off intentional time on our calendars for date nights. If we are strong together, we can be better parents, friends, and do better work each day. Another relationship priority for us it to go to God before we vent to each other about challenges. This helps so much to make our time together meaningful!

Ready to make your own? Go for it! Yours could be something concrete, like doing the dishes, or something more general, like cultivating gratitude daily for your husband/fiance. Leave a note in the comments so we can cheer you on! Whatever you choose, know we are proud of you for taking the small step!!

P.S. These beautiful engagement photos are by Blue Ribbon Vendor Sarah Joelle! See the rest in our Facebook Friday series.

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Jillian Boland reply

    Love this! Such a great idea- ready to work on mine today :) Emily- do you know what reading plan yall are doing yet? I’ve started one but don’t love the format. Looking for what others have found and like! Great seeing you last week!

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Happy New Year, belles! We are big believers in goals and resolutions in the Southern Weddings office: we always set company goals for the year together, as well as individual professional goals, and Lara is pretty much the Queen of Thoughtful Goal Setting (parts 1, 2, and 3 of this year’s series are live on her blog!). While we like the traditional resolutions as much as anyone else (healthy eating, regular exercise, and less screen time are all good things), we wanted to spend a little time today talking about resolutions for our relationships.

Just like most areas of our life, our relationships can use a little tune-up every so often. Whether we’ve been together two months or two years, are married, engaged, or dating, less-than-desirable behaviors have a way of creeping in over time. Instead of just accepting these things as an inevitable part of long-term relationships, we believe in working together to make each year better than the one that came before it. Can I get an amen?

We thought we’d share our own relationship resolutions for the new year to help get your wheels turning! Take a few minutes to sit down with your honey in the next few days to see if you can’t come up with your own — it’s actually pretty fun!

Lisa: One of mine and Dave’s biggest resolutions for 2014 is to plan a meaningful, Christ-centered wedding that is a true reflection of our relationship, our story, and our families. We are so excited to gather our loved ones in a place that is so special to us as we commit our lives to each other, and we want them all to leave our wedding being able to say, “That was so Lisa and Dave!” On that note, even though we’re thrilled and excited about the wedding, our other resolution is to make sure that building our relationship doesn’t take a back burner to planning. We still want to go on dates, travel together, explore new places, and have great experiences that help us to get to know each other even better.

Nicole: Taylor and I decided to make resolutions that we could both work on (rather than me making a resolution that benefits him and vice versa). This year, we’re resolving to making dinner plans in advance — including a menu for the night and a grocery shopping plan. Last year, we got into the habit of getting together for dinnertime and then spending an hour debating what to make, if we wanted to spend time making it, or if we should just go out. And if we wanted to go out, where should we go? We’d both end up hungry and frustrated by 8:00 with a pizza on the way. While we’d still like to keep our pizza picnic tradition, we also greatly enjoy our time in the kitchen together and sitting down to a healthy meal. We’d like to gain time back making real conversation and to break some unhealthy dining habits.

Marissa: With a sweet little baby arriving soon after the New Year, one relationship resolution BDK and I have set is planned rest together. With all the holiday busyness and preparing for our daughter (I’m a bit type A), time has become scarce. So, we’re committing to nights in with Netflix and Chinese food on the couch! Creating purposeful time to rest and enjoy each other’s company helps refuel our marriage. I’ve also committed to not making our bed sometimes. Now, this resolution may sound funny, but I tend to make it even before BDK can get out of it! By not making the bed, it’s my physical way of showing BDK my commitment to not taking things quite so seriously :)

Lara: My 2014 relationship resolution is to plan more “just Ari” time. With a toddler and both of us having busy lives professionally, time for just the two of us is rare. So, in 2014 I resolve to plan date nights well in advance so we know we will always have time for just us. When we are strong together, we are strong for Grace and for everyone in our lives!

Kristin: 2013 was very kind to the Winchesters. After dating long-distance for 6+ years, our first full calendar year of married life included numerous fun little adventures along with getting more settled into our home in VA. We have gotten quite spoiled by regular suppers at the table and quiet nights curled up on the sofa. For 2014, we have two relationships resolutions related to our current location. First, we want to be intentional about spending quality time together AND with other couples. We typically do a pretty good job at together time, but we feel that double-dating and group dating is a way we can spend quality time with people we love and in the process learn a thing or two about relationships from new perspectives. Second, we want to do a better job at exploring our current surroundings. We want to take advantage of the attractions and adventures that the Commonwealth of Virginia offers. I am not typically very ‘outdoorsy’, but I am ready to take a hike or two in 2014!

Emily: John is the dinner chef in our family, so my two relationship resolutions for the new year are related to that. First, I want to sit on one of our comfy bar stools while he cooks. I’m usually working on (personal) blog posts or projects during this time, but my new perch will bring us physically closer (instead of me being on the couch across the room) and make conversation easier. Second, I want to wash the dishes every night before going to bed instead of leaving them until the morning — it makes our home a happier place to be.

Ready to make your own? Go for it! Yours could be something concrete, like doing the dishes, or something more general, like cultivating gratitude daily for your husband/fiance. Leave a note in the comments so we can cheer you on! Whatever you choose, know we are proud of you for taking the small step!! Love never fails.

P.S. These ridiculously cute engagement photos are by Cassidy Brooke. See them all in our Facebook Friday album!

emily Written with love by Emily
  1. avatar Heath reply

    I love the photos in this – I’m guessing they’ve been shot on film. Just beautiful.

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