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There isn’t much that is more exciting than receiving a save the date card in the mail. Nestled between the bills (ew) and junk mail (gross), occasionally a save the date comes my way. Not only do save the dates provide you with important information like the location, time and date of the event, the best save the dates are also sneak peeks into the style of the couple, and may provide some hints about what’s in store for their big day!

Spark Letterpress is a clever stationery design company that started after sparks flew between two designers (aw!). They began by designing their own wedding invitations, and and orders have been coming in ever since. Now, Spark Letterpress wants to help keep the sparks flying between you and your soon-to-be spouse!

Are you a couple with a flair for modern design? The Lucinda save the dates would be perfect for you. More traditional? Check out the Felicity and Anthony designs. Are you the mysterious type? Appeal to the secret agent inside with the Claire save the dates.

Win: Here’s your chance to win some letterpress love! One lucky winner will receive 100 save the date cards and 100 envelopes of their choice from Spark Letterpress! Yes, 100!! You can even completely customize the designs to your wedding style by changing the paper or ink colors, the fonts or the layout.

To Enter: Head over to the adorable Spark Letterpress website and check out all of the wedding stationery styles. Which one fits your wedding best? Post a comment below with your answer for your chance to win!

This giveaway will end on Tuesday, May 10 at midnight. Have fun!

Written with love by Whitney
  1. avatar madelynne miller reply

    My favorite wedding suite is ‘Amelie’, which combines just enough whimsy and modernity to suit the vibe of our October wedding

    • avatar Meredith reply

      We are getting married at the Chicago Civic Opera House and are trying to keep with the elegant theme of the Opera! I am in love with the Caitlyn design, it combines elegance with a hint of modern and drama, which is not easy! The style is perfection! I especially love the save the dates!!!

  2. avatar Linden reply

    JOY is beautiful- so soft and delicate and elegant. I love the soft pink and gray- it’s perfection in an invitation suite!! LOVE!

  3. avatar Brittany B. reply

    The Arianna would fit our wedding theme the best! It is traditional but has a modern edge to it…the perfect combo of my fiance and me :)

  4. avatar Stefanie R. reply

    I love the Amelie suite – it has the perfect modern, yet elegant feel that we want for our wedding. Beautiful!

  5. avatar Khristina reply

    The Katie has a great vintage flair! Love it!

  6. avatar Abbe reply

    Caitlyn, for sure! It has the delicate swirls and ethereal quality I’m planning for my wedding!

  7. avatar Mary Kathryn reply

    I absolutely LOVE the Ava design. The classic staple of navy and the touch of blush are a perfection mixture of both my fiance and myself. It also doesn’t hurt that blush and navy are our exact wedding colors! A match made in heaven!

  8. avatar Ashley reply

    I love the Theresa design! It is done beautifully.

  9. avatar Bonnie-Lynn reply

    I love the Sarah design

  10. avatar Davonne reply

    I love the Valerie suite. It has the country chic feel we are going for on our special June wedding.

  11. avatar Mandy reply

    I love the “Margaret” design for its beautiful calligraphy and soft colors. This design would compliment my wedding theme perfectly.

  12. avatar Tara reply

    It is so hard to choose as there are so many amazing designs! The design that best fits my fiance and I would be Isabel. We are getting married on the beach and the bright colors and festive “personality” of the suite fit it perfectl!

  13. avatar Julie reply

    I love the whimsy of their dotted flourish suite. It’s fun and classic – exactly what I want my wedding to be :)

  14. avatar Danielle reply

    I love the Theresa. It matches the color theme for my wedding, and brings in the romantic feel that me fiancée and I want for our wedding. Lastly the floral design is what my Fiancee and I have in mind for our wedding.

  15. avatar Farren reply

    I ordered my wedding invitations from Spark and could not be happier with the letterpress loveliness I sent to all my family and friends! I searched for months to find the perfect invitation that matched my specific vision but failed to locate one. Spark allowed me to custom create an invitation with the border, background, and font I desired. The best part is, with all the customization, I still paid less than what many companies charge for letterpress!

  16. avatar Rebecca H reply

    I LOVE the sarah design. The colors are chic and beautiful and I love the birds.

  17. avatar Tracy reply

    love, Love, LOVE the Valerie suite…which also happens to be my mother’s name :)

  18. avatar Stefanie reply

    I love the Lucinda – it’s pretty, modern, and casual, which is exactly what we’re hoping our wedding will be!

  19. avatar Rachael reply

    I love the Floral Tile design from the Spark Pattern collections. Its clean and simple, which it exactly what we are aiming for with our wedding. We are having an simple outdoor ceremony and reception by the water (Tampa Bay) friends and family.

  20. avatar Jillian reply

    I love “Margaret” .. so beautiful! and its my grandmother’s name too. crossing my fingers!

  21. avatar Kristen Cowan reply

    I love the “Isabel” suite! It is light and summery, perfect for our June wedding! :)

  22. avatar Erin B reply

    While initially tempted to go with my namesake, the Erin style, the Destineation style is definitely the most fitting choice for us. As a couple that met while in law school in South Bend IN, and spent three arctic winters keeping each other warm, we truly feel that inviting our guests to a February wedding in Miami is a “passport to paradise”….

  23. avatar Courtney M. reply

    I love the Arianna! So classy!

  24. avatar Sheila reply

    It was hard to choose one as of right now, but my two favorites are Natalya–FI and my fave, but doesn’t go with the rest of our wedding vibe (we may just have to change the wedding to match! haha), and Hollie–I am obsessed!!! This one would go well with what we have planned and it is so cute!

  25. avatar Erin B. reply

    While initially tempted to go with my namesake, the Erin style, the Destination style is definitely the most fitting choice for us. As a couple that met while in law school in South Bend IN, and spent three arctic winters keeping each other warm, we truly feel that inviting our guests to a February wedding in Miami is a “passport to paradise”….

  26. avatar Molly Wood reply

    I was drawn to the destination suite at first because our wedding is a destination wedding…. But I’m sure our guests are expecting us to go with some type of “passport/travel theme” so I would love to shock them with the unexpected. I love LOVE LOVE the Lucinda suite! The woodgrain did it for me! My fiance loves trees and since our ceremony is under a beautiful Banyan tree this would be perfect :)

  27. avatar Stacy reply

    I like the Natalia and the Caitlyn

  28. avatar Kfloveinme reply

    We’re getting married in Dominican Republic, so the Destination suite is definitely our pick! Thanks for a lovely giveaway!


  29. avatar Christi reply

    My favorite is the Sarah. I think the colors are beautiful and would match perfectly with our blush and blue color scheme. I really liked the save the date cards though, because of the plaid like pattern on them and the sweet love birds.

  30. avatar Kimber reply

    The Stella would be perfect for our outdoor wedding next summer. The branches have so much life to it!

  31. avatar Allyson L. reply

    As I was going through the designs there were so many that I liked but as soon as I saw Arianna I knew that one was perfect. We’re getting married next fall and along with fall colors in the decorations the wedding colors are black and white. I intend to use lace throughout the wedding so this would be perfect. I love the monogram as well. These would surely set the tone for the rest of the wedding.

  32. avatar Anna Halliwell reply

    My fiance and I love the Isabel design! It would be perfect for our outdoor September wedding! I adore their letterpress.

  33. avatar Bella reply

    I love the Isabel design! How beautiful!!

  34. avatar Jenny reply

    I love the adaptable Spark Patterns in the Floral Tile – it fits perfectly into our wedding theme!

  35. avatar Caroline reply

    Love, love, love the Margaret! It would perfectly fit the theme of my Spring garden wedding. I would change the gray ink color to slate blue to match the color of the long chiffon Amsale bridesmaid dresses. The script choice is absolutely beautiful! Well done Spark!

  36. avatar BVJ2 reply

    Destination suite for us for our upcoming wedding on beautiful clear beach of the Caribbean!

  37. avatar Ashley reply

    Absolutely in love with Spark Letterpress! I’ve been looking at their invitation designs for months now and would LOVE to have save the dates from them! My style is definitely the Margaret. My fiance and I are having a formal wedding in New Orleans June 9, 2012, and this modern french design goes perfectly with my vision.

  38. avatar Lori reply

    I LOVE the Valerie! They would be perfect as save the dates (which I am dragging my feet on sending as I type…. And haven’t ordered yet!!) for our wedding. :) They would be perfect for our October wedding.

  39. avatar Chloie reply

    I love the Amelie! The fun/modern feel fits the exact style we are going for, plus I love the colors and the overall look. Also, I love your site– I just found it and it has so many neat things!

  40. avatar Stacey Van reply

    I L*O*V*E the Margaret design. It’s fresh and elegant! It would be perfect for my southern wedding!

  41. avatar Meredith reply

    Oops replied instead of posted!

    We are getting married at the Chicago Civic Opera House and are trying to keep with the elegant theme of the Opera! I am in love with the Caitlyn design, it combines elegance with a hint of modern and drama, which is not easy! The style is perfection! I especially love the save the dates!!!

  42. avatar Caroline reply

    Margaret is just Dreamy !! It would be perfect for my downtown Charleston SC wedding ! What a beautiful design, I would be honored to have as my invitation suite :)

  43. avatar Laura reply

    Absolutely love the “Margaret” design! I cannot get enough of caligraphy style names and the colors are so beautiful. I never win anything, but would absolutely love to win these save the dates! We just put a deposit down on our venue too, so we officially have a date to save!

  44. avatar Jasmine reply

    I am soooo in love with Stella! :)

  45. avatar Brittany Kostiha reply

    The Lucinda set immediately caught my eye! We are doing a small rustic wedding in an old stone house offset by the Catoctin Mtn Range in Maryland. Additionally we are doing a peacock theme so the two birds in the Lucinda along with the browns and blue would match beautifully!

  46. avatar Natalie A. reply

    I love Amelie!

  47. avatar Jenn reply

    The Amelie suite fits the “vintage with a modern twist” feeling of my wedding perfectly!

  48. avatar Britt reply

    I love the “Graceful Orchid” pattern! So cool that the Save the Date is circular!

  49. avatar Sabrina Mix reply

    OMG, Whitney!

    I could just choose one set. Love the Sarah, Natalya and Joy one.

    Hope I can win one of these.


  50. avatar Josh reply

    Tough choices!! I believe that Stella would be a perfect invite for our Ireland destination wedding. Pick us!

  51. avatar Lauren reply

    I would love to send the Amelie! Good luck to me!!


  52. avatar Aimee reply

    I love the drama of the Natalya and the elegance of the Margaret. Such a contrast those two :)

  53. avatar anjie reply

    the natalya is *exactly* what i’ve been dreaming of for our wedding stationary suite. please oh pretty please pick me!

  54. avatar rachel reply

    I adore the Claire! Perfectly whimsical & modern at the same time!

  55. avatar Courtney Tayor reply

    I love the ERIN Invitation line so mordern playful and romantic

  56. avatar Courtney Tayor reply

    I love the ERIN invites! So modern playful and romantic would be perfect for our san fran wedding

  57. avatar EM reply

    I absolutely adore the “Sarah” set! Truly beautiful–thanks for sharing!


  58. avatar Amy T. reply

    Amelie is definitely the style for us. It’s a little bit country, modern and traditional all rolled into one. Not to mention the citrus colours are completely what I have envisioned for our big day. It’s sunny and happy, just like us!

  59. avatar Ashley reply

    Hollie is definitely my favorite. I’ve been swooning over the xoxo motif since I first got engaged.

  60. avatar Nicole reply

    as a southern yankeebelle, I adore the Margaret. We’re (fingers crossed) getting married in an old Commander’s Mansion in Boston in the Fall and the Margaret is the perfect twist of whimsicality and elegance, witha little Parisian flair. Exactly what I’m going for…:)

  61. avatar snowygreen reply

    Spark is amazing!! i love letterpress, ever since i learned how in college. I wish I had time and a nearby press to use to make them myself, so i hope we win and get to have letter press! My favorite is Felicity, all the way!

  62. avatar Celine reply

    I love the “Sarah” design – simple & romantic/

  63. avatar Kadye reply

    They’re all so lovely! I’d have to pick Margaret or Katie! We’re having a December wedding and in blue or purple those would be beautiful!

  64. avatar Jana reply

    I absolutely adore the Amelie set! The mix of vintage and modern style go perfectly with the feel we want for our wedding. Plus…Amelie is our favorite movie!

  65. avatar abby reply

    I absolutely adore the Padma collection. The intricate details and the neutral colors would fit in perfectly with my late summer Smog Shoppe wedding! Thank you for the opportunity.

  66. avatar Sarah reply

    I love the erin collection. Its simple, but still fun, which is totally me and my fiance’s style.

  67. avatar Alison reply

    What a great way to set the tone for an elegant and fun wedding. I love the holly and the margaret.

  68. avatar Layla reply

    I love the Erin design. So simple and chic. We are getting married in a barn and want our day to be relaxed and about sharing our love with family and friends. The heart design is very fitting!

  69. avatar Val reply

    We are having our country inspired wedding on this beautiful 40 acre B&B in Fayatteville Texas. The town is in the shape of a square and has fewer than 300 residents. Our 150 guests will take over the area for our weekend country affair. The Stella design is a perfect combination of everything we want our wedding to be about. I think of the words stylish, rustic, beautiful, unique, memorable and perfect when I view the invites online. It is just the right combination for our outdoor country wedding.

  70. avatar Cheryl reply

    Lily, the passport suite, is a great fit for our destination wedding. Of course, the destination suite is also stunning!

    Very elegant, creative products on the site. Wish our budget could’ve afforded them!

  71. avatar Harris reply

    Like the Lucinda or Erin.

  72. avatar Micki reply


    I love the modern look and feel of it and the fact it is not your normal wedding font/style. I am wanting a fun, casual wedding and this design is perfect for that!

  73. avatar Jenny B reply

    Loving the passport suite! My fiance is from Ireland, so his whole family is trekking over for our wedding in Chicago and these would be perfect!

  74. avatar quin reply

    I LOVE the Arianna. We are having a black and white wedding and I love the almost gothic inspired scroll detail. They are so perfect for us!

  75. avatar Amy Prentis reply

    I love “Natalya”. It is definitely vintage in style but it has a modern edge to it with the linear stripes. The monochrome color palette adds such a sophistication.

  76. avatar Beverly Furer reply

    Letterpress is a work of art on paper – and Spark does it very well!! I’d love to use Spark’s work for my wedding!

  77. avatar Steph reply

    I think these would be perfect for our wedding next May:, because my fiance loves art nouveau inspired lettering, and I love the colors!

  78. avatar Danila Crespin reply

    We are tying the knot under the shade of a 200 year old Elm tree in Algodones, NM. The Lucinda design would be a perfect way to notify our closest friends and family of our outdoor celebration.

  79. avatar Anne Johansen reply

    I love the Lily! I work for a travel agency, and I met my fiance when he came in to pay for a last minute trip. We’ve been together and traveled together ever since!

  80. avatar Taylor reply

    I love the Spark Floral – Graceful Orchid set. So perfect for our wedding!!

  81. avatar Lindsay reply

    Caitlyn is so beautiful! What a talented couple!!

  82. avatar Jessica reply

    I love the spark classic Timeline. It’s classic and fun…just like us :)

  83. avatar Camille reply

    I think I’d go with stella…but they’re all so appealing.

  84. avatar Genevieve reply

    It’s so hard to decide! I love the quirky Amelie design, and the simplicity of the overlapping circles patterns.

  85. avatar Kristyn reply

    I love the Margaret Suite!

  86. avatar Becky reply

    They are all so so pretty! But I would have to say that the Amelie is the best fit for our fall, destination (-ish) wedding.

  87. avatar Jessica G reply

    The Dotted Flourish design perfectly fits the subtle beach theme of our wedding and the relaxed elegant style of our oceanfront venue.

    This design would be the perfect way to introduce the style for our wedding when we announce the date we are so excited to share with our loved ones!

  88. avatar Brooke Sigmon reply

    I LOVE the Joy style as it represents simplicity and the calm peacefulness my fiance and I feel about each other. We’re getting married at the beach and it will be very timeless, simplistic and graceful. I think this save the date style represents this perfectly.


  89. avatar Bridget reply

    The margaret is beautiful!!

  90. avatar susan reply

    Amelie all the way.

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Howdy! Today’s etiquette inquiry comes from Liz. In her words…

I was hoping to get some advice and/or thoughts on save the dates — I’ve received mixed reviews on whether they are necessary or not. My fiance’ and I decided that it was a cost we were going to save, and had made up our minds not to do them. However, a dear friend and bridesmaid has offered to design and give us save the dates for our wedding gift. She is a very talented designer and I am excited to see what she comes up with. Now the question becomes, when is the appropriate time to send save the dates? And, do you send them to everyone you intend to invite?

Great questions! First, I thought I’d outline the scenarios when I feel save the dates are, if not necessary, helpful for guests for other engaged ladies who might be on the fence:

1. If you’re having a destination wedding, and a large majority of your guests will be making significant travel plans. I would define a “large majority” as anything over 50% of your guests, and definitely anything over 75%. A save the date will help your guests block off travel time, reserve days off from work, and get a good rate on plane tickets and/or hotel rooms.

2. If you’re holding your wedding over a holiday, such as Christmas, Thanksgiving, the Fourth of July, or Labor Day. Since some of your guests will have long-standing plans for these events, you’ll want to put a bug in their ear early.

Once you’ve decided that a save the date is for you, Liz’s first question comes into play: when to send? Emily Post suggests 3-4 months before the big day, but I would suggest that up to 7-8 months prior is still within a reasonable range. Think about it — I know I plan out my days away from work far in advance, and I assume my guests would do the same. Just be ABSOLUTELY SURE that your guest list is set in stone before sending anything. Which brings us to Liz’s next question…

do you send save the dates to everyone you plan to invite? The answer? Yes, absolutely. Once the save the dates are in the mail, the buzz about your wedding will begin to build. Your friends and family will start to talk. And if Aunt Joy (who lives in Savannah, 4 hours from the wedding site) received a save the date, and Cousin Anna Bell (who lives an hour away from the wedding site), did NOT receive a save the date, the chatter could start to spiral out of control. While it may seem silly to send local information to a local, it’s definitely the best policy to head off confusion. Plus, save the dates are exciting, and all guests should feel like an honored guest, excited to attend!

What do y’all think? Are you sending out save the dates? If so, how far in advance did you send them? If not, why not?

The save the date above is one of my favorite designs from Minted. Too cute!

emily Written with love by Emily
  1. avatar ashley reply

    I’m assembling my save the dates this weekend (yipee!) and one thing that gave us piece of mind when creating a guest list was the decision to NOT send save the dates to a small handful of non-family members that we’re kind of on the fence about inviting (i.e. my fiance’s former boss and one of our teachers from high school). We figure they’re certainly not expecting a save the date, so no big deal if they don’t get one now and then DO get the invite later this summer after we’ve crunched some numbers and really determined if we’re comfortable adding those numbers to the guest list. Just my two cents! I seriously heart save the dates. You can have so much fun with them as opposed to the invitation which requires a certain tone of formality! l-o-v-e!

    • avatar Kat reply

      ashley: I don’t know what to do about who gets a save-the-date. I’m actually glad this has come up. We’re getting married in England and have SO much family! Unfortunately, if all the aunts, uncles, and cousins get a save-the-date and ARE able to make it, we won’t be able to afford it. Is it wrong to only send it to those we seriously intend on inviting?

  2. avatar Kylie Hill reply

    LOVE those save the dates from Minted!

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  4. avatar Erin reply

    I’m with Emily on sending them out 7-8 months in advance and still being appropriate–I know I plan my events and my weekends ahead of time and I’d like to think other people do as well. My original plan was to send save-the-dates, but after some thinking, my fiance and I decided that all of our friends and family pretty much know about our wedding already, they’re all relatively local, and anyone over an hour away already knows, so there was really no need to spend the extra money. We plan on sending our invitations out a little early, too, hoping to receive the majority of the RSVPs early on.

  5. avatar Gili reply

    I am sending mine out this week, which is the 4 month mark before our Memorial Day weekend wedding. 80% of the guests will be from out of town and we wanted guests to get a head start on booking hotels and making plans. And they definitely are going out to everyone on our invite list. So, I am totally in agreement of your tips, Emily!

  6. avatar Liz reply

    Thanks for answering my question! Great advice! I will have to send y’all the save the date my friend creates for me when I get it!

  7. avatar Jenn reply

    I sent mine out 7 months prior to the wedding. Our wedding is at the beach (not where we live) and I guess is considered a destination wedding for everyone, as none of our family or friends live there. I agree with what you said about sending them out enough in advance for people to take time of work if need be and also to get rooms and good rates on rooms at that. Plus, it’s just one more exciting thing to do and to hear everyone start the buzz like you said :) I would totally send out save the dates no matter what!!

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  9. avatar Ashley S reply

    I think Save the Dates are necessary to help ensure that people are able to accommodate work/travel schedules. I’m doing email Save the Dates for most of my guests. (My fiance’s grandmother and some other people on our guest list who aren’t, um, technically savvy and wouldn’t ever see it in an email, are getting cards.) I wanted Save the Date magnets, but due to cost decided against it. I spent a Saturday designing the card using one of our engagement pictures and photo editing software. I’m going to print them at a local photo printing place, and I’m sending the emails and cards out the week after Thanksgiving for our April 28, 2012 wedding.

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