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Well, pick my peas!  We are having a super fun time at our charity yard sale right now with SO MANY amazing Southern Weddings readers and friends!  Thank y’all so much for coming out and spending today with us in the Carolina heat.

There’s plenty of Cheerwine, Sugarland cupcakes (with adorable flags from our very own Miss Emily Ayer!), sweet tea and lots of amaaaaazing yard sale goodness left, so come on down!  Full post with lots of reader pics coming next week.  For now, check us out on Facebook and Twitter for behind-the-scenes pics and lots of fun!  Emily N, Emily A, Whitney and Marissa in that cute crawdaddys dress pictured below.

Happy weekend, belles and beaus!

Written with love by Sierra
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  1. avatar Kristyn reply

    So sad that I missed this! I hope y’all do more fun things this summer! I’m right down the street and would love to come!

    • avatar Emily reply

      Hi Kristyn! We’ve got some fun plans up our sleeve for this summer, so definitely stay tuned to the blog! :) I hope we’ll see you next time!

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Last week I asked you to tell me what you think makes for a happy marriage at 80 years old and the answers were so inspiring! The [randomly chosen] winner of Love Poems is Taryn who said:  I’m starting to realize, after only 7 short months of marriage, that we HAVE to find joy in the every. single. day. Whether it’s a silly laugh in the kitchen while unpacking the groceries or 5 minutes on the couch just sitting together… it’s a big, scary world out there and at the end of the day, if we learn to rely on each other to bring JOY and LAUGHTER to our home, we’ll live long and find ourselves still sneaking slobbery kisses when we’re 80! So true.  Sometimes a tiny moment of joy together can turn your whole world around.  It’s building those little moments of joy into years of laughter and sweet love that I think will get us all to those happy kisses at 80!  Taryn, please email us your mailing address and we’ll get your book to you!

So, Ari and I just moved into a new bigger-for-baby house this week.  In packing and unpacking boxes of mementos from our last five years of marriage together, I kept replaying the memories that got us there.   Through the “better” and “worse”, the little dates, travels, adventures and sweet moments captured in our framed photographs created a marriage.  It wasn’t the grand events that stayed in my heart as much as the hike in the Rockies, walking on the Florida shores together, date nights in downtown Chapel Hill, a weekend on a farm in Newnan, a picnic in the park, playing in the North Carolina snow and, among so many others, the spontaneous times we got out of the house to just have an adventure.

It’s so easy to go through the motions.  So, break out of them and plan little dates and adventures during your engagement.  Just when you find yourself getting into a spat over where Uncle Bob is going to sit at the reception, get outside and get some fresh air!  If buttercream vs. fondant has you in a bind, it’s time to do something fun that will remind you of why you are planning this wedding in the first place.  Fall in love all over again. Get back to the heart of the wedding and have some fun together! 

I was so taken by Katie and Michael’s engagement session, photographed by my good friend Bryan Johnson.  Emily wrote this week about how we all love a real engagement session here at SW.  Nothing too styled or prepared.  Just a couple being themselves – relaxed, happy and authentically joyful – in an environment that tells their unique love story.  You can feel the love in these images, shot at Katie’s family farm in Chelsea, Alabama.

What’s so captivating about these photographs is that you forget there is a photographer there taking them.  Katie and Michael are just enjoying being in love.  Definitely an afternoon I wouldn’t forget.

Erin left this great advice on my last post: A girlfriend at work often says that there’s a difference between the girls who want a wedding and the girls who want a marriage. Exactly!  So, my challenge to you this week: stop planning your wedding for just a moment and plan a marriage. Get out and do something fun together!

If fishing isn’t your cup of tea, there are plenty of great Southern activities this season to get you out of wedding stress mode.  A few of my favorites this time of year here in the South: strawberry picking, a mini weekend trip to a favorite spot like one of these, hiking, rafting, making jam from said strawberries (yum!)…

…a trip to one of my favorite childhood spots Peach Park (the Chilton County peaches are ripe and perfect right now), making peach ice cream (thanks, mom, for the great article!), a simple picnic complete with some Georgia muscadine wine and hot boiled peanuts…

…an adventurous trip to one of Roadside America’s unique attractions and Southern oddities (just take a look at Georgia’s list!), a simple afternoon on the porch with some sweet tea, horseback riding, BBQ, camping, cornhole….

… and last but certainly not least, when all else fails, get in your bathing suit and crank up the sprinklers just like you did when you were a kid!  Trust me, your neighbors will be jealous!

Stop planning for a minute and go have an adventure this week!  Linen and floral decisions can wait a few days. Your wedding will be 1000x more enjoyable – and more meaningful – if you spend the time leading up to it falling in love all over again every. single. day. 

GIVEAWAY! One lucky couple will get one of my very favorite fab finds from V3, two custom luggage tags from Of The Fountain. How fun are these!?

Perfect for all of your adventures ahead!

TO ENTER: Leave a comment here telling me about your favorite Southern activities.  Bonus points if you go do one of them in the next week with your sweetie!

P.S. Congrats to Katie and Michael who were married just a couple weeks ago!  Wishing you blessings on your marriage and many more dates on the farm ahead!

lara Written with love by Lara Casey
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  1. avatar Ashley Caroline reply

    I love saving up bread ends and about-to-be-stale pieces in the freezer… then taking it out to thaw just in time for an outing to go feed some ducks! It’s so fun to get outside, go for a walk, and provide a little snack for the critters! My fiance is away for a summer internship, but I have a loaf’s worth in the freezer just waiting for an autumn newlywed day!

  2. avatar Taryn reply

    I love being outdoors….especially here in Nashville!!!

    My fiance’ is from a very small town called Summertown. I love going there with him and going to flea markets and antique shops as well as shopping in the Amish community(homemade pickles!) ! I also love camping and sitting around a bonfire in an open field at his parents :)

    As a matter of fact….we have plans for that this weekend :) hope for good weather!!

  3. avatar Leah reply

    Since it has been so warm outside lately, our favorite southern thing to do is go canoeing on the weekends. It is so peaceful and relaxing to be out on the lake during the stressful weeks leading up to our wedding.

  4. avatar Adrienne reply

    In Virginia there is a incredible live music scene. That’s what I love about Southern Summers, packing up some food and sittin’ by the bay listening to locals bands.

  5. avatar courtney reply

    in the south, florida for me, there is this perfect, amazingly wonderful afternoon breeze that lasts for only a few weeks, right before it gets into the 90’s. literally everyone in town is on their porch, at an outside restaurant, walking their dog, playing basketball, or simply opening up a window. my husband and i just got back from our honeymoon on monday and even though we were incredibly exhausted, we sat on my grandmother’s front porch swing…feeling the breeze, talking about memories we each had this time in years past, and just enjoyed the moment. we both were reminded of why we love living in the south. this breeze doesn’t happen anywhere else :)

  6. avatar Erin reply

    So excited you quoted me, quoting my coworker! Haha, I passed it along to her and now we both feel totally famous :) Excellent advice from both you AND her!!

  7. avatar Rebecca reply

    Sitting outside with a cold beer, bushel of crabs, music and friends!

  8. avatar Stacy reply

    Favorite Activity – Drinking lemonade on the back porch…

  9. avatar casey reply

    love these pics! My fiance and I have dated for the past five yrs and are finally tying the knot sept. of this year….Our favorite thing to do is hop in the car with no destination in mind and explore (as we like to call it) :)….We love to go to the local battlefield and hike or bike..or even get a little history lesson while we are there…We also love to go to the local smalltown theme park, Lake Winnie, (the location of our 1st date) and ride the rides, play games, and of coarse eat funnel cakes and cotton candy..At the top of the ferris wheel is where he popped the question….We actually shot our engagement photos at both of these locations…they are awesome, and so special to both of us….We have traveled to so many places all over, but nowhere beats the fun & beauty of the South!

  10. avatar sarah g reply

    in the past, i would have said anything involving being outdoors with s’mores, but my maryland soon-to-be hubby has introduced me to the delights of crabs and beer, so that’s definitely a new favorite!

  11. avatar Kelly reply

    Every summer, my fiance & I go to his house in the mountains in Boone, NC. It’s a perfect escape. Your cell phones never work, and the humidity is next to none. The first time I went, he taught me how to skip rocks in the river, and we found fields of wild strawberries and daisies. His lab, Bourbon, can’t get enough of swimming in the river. The local general store has the best old fashioned candy, and even in the summer you can sit by the bonfire at night and enjoy this little southern escape from reality!

  12. avatar lindsey dawn reply

    I believe there is a reason baseball season is so long, and it has nothing to do with a tournament! There is something so very southern (and American) about grabbing your sweetie, or a bunch of friends, and heading to the ball park. My fiance and I have been baseball fans since we could yell, “Go Braves” and “Go Orioles.” Even when we can’t make it to Baltimore or Atlanta, we enjoy a minor league game in our hometown. Funnel cakes, hot dogs and beer always make for a great day with excellent memories.

  13. avatar Perryn reply

    My Fiance, Michael, and I LOVE to go fishing- we’re both from Pensacola FL, and go out any time we get the chance (he even gave me a custom fishing rod the night we got engaged!) There’s nothing better then sitting on the porch with a beer, watching the sunset over the bay and smelling the fish you just caught that day on the grill. I’m not a morning person, but I’ll be up at 5am excited and ready to go fishing.
    Since we’re all over the place for our jobs (in Kansas right now!) we haven’t been able to go lately- but we still find small ponds to fish in here—it looks a lot like the pictures you posted!

    • avatar Lara reply

      So fun, Perryn! My family lives in Pensacola. I love it there so much!

  14. avatar Mary reply

    We just moved to Central Texas where there are so many fresh water rivers all around us. Not only are they beautiful, but on a hot Texas day (and we’ve had a lot of those recently), it’s so fun and relaxing to blow up some tubes and go tubing down one of the spring water rivers. It makes me feel like a kid again… only this time, I’m a girl who gets to do this with the love of her life. We’ll probably get to go tubing this weekend since his parents will be in town. I can’t wait!

  15. avatar Stephanie reply

    I love me a low country boil! Boiled peanuts… yummmmmm!

  16. avatar Linden reply

    I love so many Southern activities… but I’d have to say my favorite is enjoying the lake. Getting up early to waterski on the smooth water while everyone else is sleeping, grilling and eating out by the water, staying up late talking under the stars…. I love it all! My very favorite has to be 4th of July on the lake though- nothing beats watching fireworks while sitting on a boat holding hands with the one you love most! (It also happened to be during our first 4th Fireworks show that he realized I was The One- doesn’t get much sweeter than that.)

  17. avatar Rochelle M reply

    Well I’m not sure if it’s Southern but it’s definitely Floridian. My fiance and I live just close enough to ride our bikes down the Clearwater inlet and over the clearwater bridge over to Clearwater Beach. We just love packing up a backpack cooler and blankets and spending the day out in the sun on the beach and enjoying the view. The sand is as soft as powder and riding our bikes allows us to get exercise & beat the traffic & avoid having to pay for parking. (These are quick cheap dates for us since we are “saving” for our wedding and honeymoon ;) )

  18. avatar Jennifer Underhill reply

    My favorite southern activity is visiting my family’s small farm. We hop on the John Deere Gator and take a quick ride down a little path… past lots of green ferns and over a small stream in my parents backyard to a big field where my brother keeps his cows and goats. There are usually deer walking around back there too. It always smells like animals and grass and hay and you can hear tiny ‘bahhhhs’ and deep low ‘mooooos’ as soon as you come up on the pasture. Some of the cows have names and others just have numbers but most come right up to you and let you pet them or feed them. I love taking pictures back there while my brother fills up the water bowls and we ride back up to my parents house for an amazing home-cooked dinner. There is nothing like it.

  19. avatar Stephanie reply

    In Texas, the best summer weekends are spent floating down the Guadalupe River. Slow and steady sunning in a big black tube with the almost-but-not-quite-too-cold water flowing beneath you. After you hop out, dinner at the Grist Mill is a requisite, then you two-step the night away at Gruene Hall.

  20. avatar Kam reply

    My favorite southern activity to scavenge the market in Charleston, SC for unique items. There’s a lot to see and we have a lot of fun browsing together – and it makes for interesting conversation pieces when you find unique buys!

  21. avatar Andy reply

    Baking cookies together is a winner every time. Look up recipes for monster cookies and go nuts. My lady loves it when I make a batch and share.

    Travel hammocks make a lovely impromptu outdoor date. Grab a fun book, your lady and the best tasting sub sandwich you can find. Go to the lake on a weekday and you’ll have the place to yourself.

  22. avatar Davonne Head reply

    My favorite Southern activity is taking hikes through Central Texas. My finance and I love to go hiking and will hopefully go this weekend to explore some parks around Austin then eat some BBQ!

  23. avatar Davonne reply

    I love getting out and enjoying this spring weather and my finance and I love going for hikes all around Central Texas, where we live. We love spending time outdoors and seeing all the lovely wildflowers and exercising our two dogs. It also gives us a chance to work up our hunger so we can stop and get some awesome Texas BBQ.

  24. avatar Caroline K reply

    I think this is my favorite SW post ever. To me, those ordinarily wonderful moments are what add up to a lifetime of happiness. Perhaps because our graduate student budgets forced it, but most of our relationship was built wandering through small bookstores, sandwich shops, and towns in this Old North State. My favorite of these “wanderings” is when we meandered up the Outer Banks last summer– staying only in B&Bs, stopping at any interesting shop (or sand dune), and eating all the local ice cream we wanted!

  25. avatar madelynne miller reply

    My fiance and I love to eat good southern food!! We go get barbecue or eat at local meat and three’s whenever we can! We both also love to visit our grandparents when we can!

  26. avatar Jennifer reply

    The food! Low country boils, good southern BBQ, REAL banana pudding! Just being outside with a picnic is perfect… And the smell of honeysuckles is my favorite.

  27. avatar Robyn reply

    I adore the rowboat pictures and have to keep that in mind!
    My favorite southern activity is going camping and bringing the guitar! There is nothing like hearing him sing to me out under the stars!

  28. avatar Allyson L. reply

    Now that the winter is gone and everyone is starting to enjoy the outdoors again we love to go hiking, we have several favorite places near our home in NC. We also just got bikes so we’ve started riding together around our neighborhood and taking our dog with us. My fiances favorite thing to do would definitely be to grill or smoke dinner on a nice afternoon. We’ll sit outside, have a drink and sometimes friends will come over, it’s a great time every weekend.

  29. avatar Heather reply

    We both grew up in the south, but have since moved away for jobs. Every time we are home for the holidays we make sure to get some sweet tea and fried chicken in!

  30. avatar Erin reply

    I think pretty much everything I do counts as a Southern activity, living in South Carolina and having grown up in the mountains of Virginia. I love to play a good game of paddleball on the beach, go for a hike in the mountains, or just sit and swing on the porch on a warm summer night with a cool glass and some good friends! (oh yeah and I plan to do ALL these next week with my sweetie!!!)

  31. avatar Nicole reply

    My fiance and I relocated to South Carolina earlier this year and are in love with pace of life, the adventures we find around every corner, and the time we are taking to just explore our new home. We LOVE camping, fishing, and walking our puppies around the beautiful green areas of SC, the mountains to the coast!

  32. avatar Rachael reply

    Our favorite summer outdoor activity would be packing up our dog, our kayak and heading camping! We live in Tampa and within a 2-3 hours drive there are so many amazing kayaking/canoeing and springs!Crystal River is one of our fave spots! The water is always lovely at 72 degrees and often we spot manatee’s swimming along, our dog goes crazy when we spots one!

  33. avatar Natalie reply

    Going to watch some small town baseball or football and eating boiled peanuts… And if I’m not in the mood for that I love hiking to local waterfalls (NC, SC, and Georgia have some of the most beautiful ones I have ever seen!)

  34. avatar Tricia reply

    My favorite southern activity is opening the windows in my home every day for the 2 weeks of the year that we have weather that is good enough to do so. =)

  35. avatar Kelsey reply

    Certain activities take you back to when you were a little kid and playing capture the flag with all of your neighborhood friends and there’s nothing better than a humid North Carolina night outdoor cookout with all your friends to bring back those memories. Especially after a day of yard sale and flea market hopping!

  36. avatar Edi reply

    I adore that fish picture :)
    Those luggage tags are great! I love things that are special and personalized!

    My favorite Southern activity is air boating :) I love when we go just the two of us…fishing, relaxing, playing on sandbars…the best :)

  37. avatar Katie reply

    My favorite southern activity is slowing down and enjoying an evening on my parents’ back porch after dinner. We’ll sip lemonade while we laugh and just have some good old fashioned family time.

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  39. avatar cherie reply

    We love having family BBQs!! Father’s day is coming up and we’ll have one then :) I’m so excited!!

  40. avatar Ashley Stout reply

    Defiantly the best thing to do in the South is have a good fun home cooking meal with the whole family. Following by enjoying each other. We actually did it this afternoon started out by going to church, then good old brisket,green beans,and mashed potatoes, and don’t forget the peach cobbler. We ended up filling up an old wheel barrel with water and made a southern pool for my five month old niece. Got to love my in laws!!!

  41. avatar CLaire reply

    Well, unfortunately my fiance and I don’t live in the south. But it touches our hearts every time we are down visiting my brother in Atlanta. We travel probably twice a year to visit them! The so called ‘southern hospitality’ truly exists! Everyone is so pleasant. We’ve had our eyes opened up to so many amazing things! Our favorite is bouncing around and checking out little mom and pop restaurants and stores (Virginia Highlands sits at the top of our list) and then riding the bikes to Piedmont Park. Sitting outside on the grass or playing frisbee for hours and just enjoying the ATL Heat and Sun!

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    Can’t believe I missed the big announcement! I was just catching up on all my favorite blogs and was shocked to see my own name above :) Thanks SO much, y’all! Can’t wait to receive that sweet book in the mail :) I love SW Mag!

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Hi ladies + gents! Starting this week Lara will be dropping in periodically to share her perspective on weddings… enjoy!

Something my wonderful friend Natalie taught me is, when the goin’ gets tough, ask yourself, “Will it matter when we’re 80?” Those moments of pure pull-your-hair-out-stress during wedding planning are bound to happen.   The engagement period is an exciting time but, for many, daunting, with big decisions to make, family battles to wage and important questions to ponder like who is going to carry the wee little ring bearer to the altar if he decides to play with your pretty aisle flowers along the way!? What if your napkins don’t arrive in the perfect shade of blush?  What if your father-in-law’s toast goes awry?  What if your cake tastes more like double chocolate than classic chocolate!?  Will it matter when you’re 80?

Just ask these young lovers that we’ve all fallen in love with.  Ruth and Jerry stole our hearts last year (and yours!).  Met at 83; married at 83.

Ruth and Jerry are happy, in love and don’t have a care in the world except being good to each other.  We loved these two so much they even made a special appearance in V3!

Jose Villa captivated so many with these images of this sweet couple who has been married for over 65 years.

It’s hard to ignore the sweet care between these two.

Imagine you and your fiance/husband many moons from now… will what you’re fussing about matter when you’re 80?

Married 60 years and the Hightsmiths are still celebrating!

Shot by Amanda and Millie Holloman (who we had the joy of doing a shoot with a few days ago here in Chapel Hill!), the Highsmiths recently took to their family farm to re-live their big day.

Loving this table with the bright yellow forsythia in simple mason jars!

How sweet is this!? Congrats, Highsmiths!

“Grow old along with me. The best is yet to be – the last of life for which the first was made.”
— Robert Browning  

I hope at 80 years of age Ari and I are snug as a bug in a rug, laughing at all the silly things we worried about, loving life and enjoying a big slice of pecan pie together! 

What do you think are the secrets to growing old together and staying as happy as these lovebirds?  Where do you hope to be when you’re 80?

GIVEAWAY: Leave a comment here, and one lucky couple will get a copy of one of my favorite books, Love Poems!

lara Written with love by Lara Casey
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  1. avatar Calder Clark reply

    Um thanks. Bawling over my pizza slice at lunch, LC. I daresay it isn’t the hormones, either! I will have to start asking myself this poignant question!

    • avatar Lara reply

      Calder Clark: Love you, C! Thinking of you and that little babe-to-be! xo

  2. avatar Natalie reply

    My fiance and I talk all the time about how we can’t wait to enjoy the next 60 years together. I can hope and pray that we will have long and healthy lives so that we too can still look into each others eyes with that “young love” look.

  3. avatar Kristen reply

    How precious! My fiance and I are lucky because we have 3 sets of grandparents that are still alive and happily in love and married. All 6 of them will be present at our September wedding and we are so blessed by their love and encouragement of the two of us! One thing my fiance and I talked about long before there was ever mention of a ring was the concept of “generations.” He told me late one night during one of our many phone conversations how he wanted his wife to be someone he could see many great generations coming from. He wanted her to possess qualities that were so beautiful that he couldn’t help but hope they were qualities that would be passed down through many generations. I think about this conversation often as we prepare for our wedding and I know without a doubt I hope our children, grand children, and great grandchildren pass down his love, compassion, and wisdom – qualities we both received from our own previous generations! Thanks for such a meaningful and sweet post!

  4. avatar Savannah reply

    Marriage is for LIFE. I feel like many couples today have forgotten that. I am so excited about growing old with my fiance. While I do hope that we feel the same about each other as we do now, I also know that marriage is a commitment and it takes work. Things may change over time, but our commitment will not.

  5. avatar Erin reply

    A girlfriend at work often says that there’s a difference between the girls who want a wedding and the girls who want a marriage. While my husband and I don’t have any living grandparents at this point, we’re both lucky enough to have our own sets of parents (his have been together 28 years and mine for 33) as great examples of even when a person drives you up a wall crazy, you still love them and you always will.

    • avatar Lara reply

      Erin: Erin, your coworker is spot on! We love pretty weddings here at SW, but what we love more is LOVE. It so easily gets lost in all the details. Marriage wins!

  6. avatar Kelley reply

    I had the honor of planning my grandparent’s 25th wedding anniversary. Yes 25th. My grandmother was previously married before my step-grandfather. She is 78 and he is 94. When I asked my grandmother what she envisioned for the party she said a celebration of time. She said her previous marriage wasn’t something something to celebrate but their past 25 years of love is something that should be celebrated forever. That was the moment I realized what was true love looked like.

  7. avatar Kristen Cowan reply

    What a sweet reminder that marriage is so much more than the frills and thrills of planning the wedding! :)

  8. avatar Melissa reply

    I would love a copy of this book! What a great resource to find a reading for my ceremony :)

  9. avatar Courtney reply

    What a great reminder about planning a marriage and not just a wedding. It is so easy to get caught up in all the little details! Thanks!

  10. avatar Libby reply

    I love Pablo Neruda! We’re having Alton’s brother read his poem Sonet XVII at our wedding!!!

    I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
    or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
    I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
    in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

    I love you as the plant that never blooms
    but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
    thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
    risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

    I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
    I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
    so I love you because I know no other way

    than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
    so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
    so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

  11. avatar Kristy reply

    I think the secret is wanting to have an interesting relationship. So many relationships fail when times get hard but not walking away and staying in your relationship for the long haul – looking back you can say you had an interesting relationship. And it was worth it.

  12. avatar Joy reply

    What a wonderful book! I love poems, especially love poems! Such a great way to remind everyone out there about the love they share with their husbands, and fiances! I know I would love to share these love poems with my husband!

  13. avatar Paula reply

    I don’t think I can win all the way from Australia – but I love your blog and this couple made me tear up! My parents are 65 and 61 and have been married 43 years. I myself got married last year and can only hope that in 43 or 65 years time we’re as happy as them! I will be applying this saying for the rest of my life!

    • avatar Lara reply

      Paula: Paula, we love our Aussie friends! We have sent more international orders of our print editions to Australia than anywhere else! : ) Yes, you can win from anywhere. Thanks for being a loyal reader!

  14. avatar Ashley Borysewich reply

    OMG- Pablo Neruda is my favorite poet, and my fiance loves his poems as well!

    Love you girls and Southern Weddings!

  15. avatar Sheila reply

    I went with my dad on this Mother’s Day to his parents grave to put flowers there for my grandmother. We talked and laughed and cried about about both of them. What was bittersweet was my grandmother (Grandmommie) passed away 11 months before my grandfather (Deedee). She died when they were in their 69th year being married, but he made it all the way to their 70th Anniversary, and passed shortly after. Their love was so strong and they literally couldn’t live without each other. I hope that my fiancé and my marriage will be just as wonderful and loving, and that their love and connection will inspire us. I would love a copy of Pablo Neruda’s poem book. From now on every time I read it I will think about Grandmommie and DeeDee. I think I could draw a lot of inspiration from the poems for my vows I am going to write!

  16. avatar Lori reply

    This is adorable and so very sweet! :)

  17. avatar Taylor reply

    What a sweet post!! :)

  18. avatar Jordan reply

    This post makes me look forward to being 80! Thanks for sharing!

  19. avatar Anne Markey- Charlotte Wedding Planner reply

    I can’t even handle this! I am seriously crying like a baby. So So So beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

  20. avatar Lauren @ ELD reply

    Wow, such a good thing to remind brides of! The main thing that ends up mattering from a wedding is that at the end of it, you’re married and your life begins together. So you can be together when you’re 80. :) Thank you Lara!

  21. avatar Julie Gandy reply

    I see myself with Jeff laughing about the past years. That is definitely the secret to a happy relationship….being able to find joy in everything even when times are tough. The best advise I ever got was to treat your suppose the way you want to be treated!

  22. avatar Dana L reply

    certainly not sweating the small stuff and always working on your communication! oh and always put the other person above yourself!

  23. avatar Holly reply

    Oh my heavens, what a perfect post for today. I needed this… Spot on! And leave it to Natalie to say such a thing.
    We’re getting married soon. Very soon… And I think that this phrase is perfect for our family. Paint in on a sign an hang it in our kitchen. I only wish this post had been made 9 months ago when we were trying to figure out all the wedding plans… (oy vey!) Thanks, ladies. xoxo

  24. avatar Lauren Wierman reply

    This is so sweet I almost cried. My wedding is August 5th of this year and I can barely contain myself when I think of the life we have ahead of us, every day is beautiful.

  25. avatar Sarah DeShaw reply

    What a great rule for wedding planning! (and for what to spend money on for that matter!)

  26. avatar Rebecca reply

    That was the most heartwarming post. It really does put the whole process of getting married into perspective! I absolutely adore Pablo Neruda’s poems!

  27. avatar taryn reply

    i’m starting to realize, after only 7 short months of marriage, that we HAVE to find joy in the every. single. day. whether it’s a silly laugh in the kitchen while unpacking the groceries or 5 minutes on the couch just sitting together… it’s a big, scary world out there and at the end of the day, if we learn to rely on each other to bring JOY and LAUGHTER to our home, we’ll live long and find ourselves still sneaking slobbery kisses when we’re 80!

  28. avatar Kristyn Hogan reply

    Sigh, so unbelievably adorable :)

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  30. avatar Cyn reply

    Oh my goodness. I remember falling in love with these images the first time I saw these photos & this totally made my heart smile again. What else do I love? The Pablo Neruda giveaway! We had a poem read by him at our wedding. Oh happy memories :)

  31. avatar Monica reply

    What my *wonderful* husband and I have found that keeps our marriage strong – COMMUNICATION. Pure and simple. Just talk to each other :) We are making plans this week for when we are 80…buying a waterfront lot in beautiful Pensacola!

  32. avatar Joy reply

    This is so precious and a great reminder. Thank you!

  33. avatar Anna Kim Photography reply

    Thank you for THIS! It really helps to keep life’s road bumps in perspective.

  34. avatar Claire reply

    My boyfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for almost 2 years now- he’s in Chicago getting his PhD and I just graduated with my undergraduate degree yesterday here in the south, (Georgia) ! Hopefully now this will give us the opportunity to be closer together. I just love your blog, LC. You’re very inspiring. Thank you. :-)

  35. avatar Sydney reply

    I want a poem book! I have seriously been wanting to start reading more poetry aloud. Like when my boyfriend and I are sitting on the porch or fishing or just hanging out, why not turn off the TV and take turns reading poems aloud?

  36. avatar lindsey reply

    what a sweet sweet post! definitely makes you think twice about sweatin’ the small stuff.. thanks!

  37. avatar Jessie Emeric reply

    thanks for giving this wonderful perspective. We sometimes get lost in the tedious little things and forget to look at the big picture. Here’s to being 80!

  38. avatar Brit @ Landlocked Bride reply

    Definitely communication, and “dating.” Making time for special nights out here and there help keep the spark :)

  39. avatar Em reply

    oh, these photos light up my heart. I just love them.

  40. avatar kym vitar reply

    love each other a little more than you did the day before.

  41. avatar Melanie Alvarez reply

    Growing old with my best friend, my love, is the best thing that happens to me each day. Life can end at 50, 60, 70, or 80 and beyond… I hope that we are lucky enough to spend many many more decades together holding hands, looking into each others eyes, and snuggling! (And of course reading some Neruda!)

  42. avatar Sweet Southern Adventures + Giveaway! « Southern Weddings Magazine reply

    […] Last week I asked you to tell me what you think makes for a happy marriage at 80 years old and the answers were so inspiring! The [randomly chosen] winner of Love Poems is Taryn who said:  I’m starting to realize, after only 7 short months of marriage, that we HAVE to find joy in the every. single. day. whether it’s a silly laugh in the kitchen while unpacking the groceries or 5 minutes on the couch just sitting together… it’s a big, scary world out there and at the end of the day, if we learn to rely on each other to bring JOY and LAUGHTER to our home, we’ll live long and find ourselves still sneaking slobbery kisses when we’re 80! So true.  Sometimes a tiny moment of joy together can turn your whole world around.  It’s building those little moments of joy into years of laughter and sweet love that I think will get us all to those happy kisses at 80!  Taryn, please email us your mailing address and we’ll get your book to you! So, Ari and I just moved into a new bigger-for-baby house this week.  In packing and unpacking boxes of mementos from our last five years of marriage together, I kept replaying the memories that got us there.   Through the “better” and “worse”, the little dates, travels, adventures and sweet moments captured in our framed photographs created a marriage.  It wasn’t the grand events that stayed in my heart as much as the hike in the Rockies, walking on the Florida shores together, date nights in downtown Chapel Hill, a weekend on a farm in Newnan, a picnic in the park, playing in the North Carolina snow and, among so many others, the spontaneous times we got out of the house to just have an adventure. Save Facebook it Tweet it […]

  43. avatar Amanda McPherson reply

    I work in hospice and have the unique blessing of spending my days with couple who have been married for 50, 60, 70+ years and are facing the end of this life with their beloved. What I have learned from this incredible experience is that those couples who are the closest, attached at the hip and enjoying life together, are the happiest…still in love and TOTALLY CUTE all the way to the end! It is a wonderful reminder for me as a soon to be married 20-something to give all the love I have to give to my beloved everyday, not only because you never know what tomorrow will bring, but because love and attachment to each other are the building blocks for decades of happy, passionate, and loving marriage.

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