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I couldn’t help but smile when I read Laura and John’s love story. After he offered to help her carry boxes up five flights of stairs (she refused!), they didn’t get to know each other until a year later, when he stopped her in the hallway in search of googly-eye stickers! This unconventional conversation-starter led to a beautiful relationship, a surprise proposal, and ultimately, a delightfully Southern wedding. Since Laura and John met in Oregon and he grew up in Indiana, this Alabama bride sure had her work cut out for her! The azaleas were in full bloom by the time they held their deeply meaningful ceremony in her parents’ backyard, followed by a reception full of Southern foods and treats. I can only imagine how many of their Northern guests fell in love with the South that night! Just like Laura and John’s adorable love story and beautiful wedding, it’s easy to love, don’t you think?

Many thanks to Kelly of Spindle Photography for sending Laura and John’s wedding our way!

John was the first guy I met when I moved to Portland, Oregon. He was the only person (besides a fireman) who offered to help my friend and me move boxes up five flights of stairs to my new apartment. I stubbornly turned down his offer to help. I later found out that he lived down the hall from me, but our schedules were pretty different and I barely ever saw him. A year later, fate and googly-eye stickers brought us together. One night, when I returned home from dinner with my friend, John approached us in the hall and asked if I had any googly-eye stickers that he could use for a model he was building for a science class. Oddly enough, I did. He invited my friend and I over to his place that night (where she quietly told me that she thought he might like me), and we’ve been side-by-side ever since.

Tell us about finding your wedding dress. Finding my wedding dress was such a special experience. My parents flew me back home to Alabama the summer before my wedding so that I could find my dress with my loved ones by my side. The first place I visited was The White Room because two of my older sisters had had their beautiful dresses perfectly altered by Carolyn Kelley, the owner. I searched around for something unique and picked out a variety of styles to try on. The first one I put on was perfect, and it was floor sample in perfect condition! I tried on about ten more dresses after that, but kept thinking about that first one. Also, my dad (who has impeccable taste) kept saying, “That’s pretty, but I’m not sure that it’s as special as that first one.” Finally, I put the first dress back on. We added a very simple veil and everyone in the room teared up—it was definitely THE dress. Then, on top of everything going so well that day, my amazing grandparents surprised me by purchasing my dream dress. It was just one of those incredibly lucky and lovely days.

Did you decide to do a “first look”? Why or why not? We did decide to do a first look. I really felt like it would be more special to see each other that day without a crowd of people watching (though my sisters and bridesmaids were stealthily watching from a distance). Plus, I knew that if I saw him for the first time while walking down the aisle, I would have been so overwhelmed by emotion that I probably would have cried through the entire ceremony (which I basically did anyway, but it would have been more intense). It was so comforting to see him, and so sweet to see him see me. I’m glad that we set aside time to do that and let that moment sink in.

What readings, if any, did you have at your ceremony? We had three readings. John’s mom read an excerpt from “The Bridge Across Forever” by Richard Bach. My step-mom read “A Marriage” by Mark Twain. Then, I had our officiant (who is also one of our best friends) read an excerpt from a letter my mom wrote me before she passed away about finding real love.

This picture might be my favorite out of all of them. They look like they just adore each other!

What Southern details or traditions did you include in your celebration? What was Southern about your wedding? It was really important to me that I married John in my hometown. He grew up in Portland, but most of his family is from Indiana, so I wanted to make sure that I showcased the charms of the South for all of our Oregon and Indiana guests. Fortunately, Mother Nature cooperated with us and our spring wedding showed off Alabama’s most gorgeous time—my parents’ backyard was filled with blooming azaleas! Of course, we made sure to highlight Southern food: candied pecans, sweet tea, mint juleps, shrimp and grits, crab salad and fried green tomatoes were some of the highlights.

Tell us all about the proposal! John was determined to surprise me, which was a difficult undertaking since we designed my engagement ring together. Actually, I had been anticipating a proposal for almost three years when the time finally came. He had a few elaborate plans that involved us being outdoors, but each fell through due to many strings of rainy days. After a handful of failed attempts at creating an ideal situation, he came up with a low-key plan. He told me one weekend morning that he had to go down to Eugene for business (which isn’t unusual). I kissed him goodbye and went about my day fixing up things at the house. Many hours later, as I was taking a nap, John came through the door with a nervous look on his face. At first I was startled because I didn’t expect him and was half asleep. Then, he got down on one knee, took out the ring (a beautiful combination of two family heirlooms) and told me why he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I was stunned! I quickly realized that I was so stunned that I did not hear his proposal, and I asked him to propose to me again, which he did. Obviously, I said yes. We spent the rest of the day together doing things we love doing and being totally excited.
When did y’all get married? April 13, 2013
How many friends, family members, and loved ones attended your wedding? About 75
Did you write your own vows? If so, what was your favorite phrase, verse or line? Yes, we did. My favorite part about our vows was that we wrote them separately, but they ended up being very similar. My favorite line from both had to do with our desire to help each other fulfill our dreams.
Describe your wedding flowers. My wedding flowers were gorgeous! I wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted, but I found a vendor I could really trust (thank you Mandy and the HotHouse team) and left most of the decisions up to her. I told her what colors I wanted, and that I wanted ranunculus and poppies—the rest was up to her and her team. I didn’t ask for roses, but I’m so glad they included them since John and I live in The City of Roses.
Describe your wedding cake or dessert. Much of my wedding was focused on highlighting things that I love about the South. I knew that I wanted several regular cakes instead of one large one, so we chose a couple of uniquely Southern cakes (strawberry and coconut) and a beautiful chocolate cake (because you have to have chocolate). I also included two cheesecakes because John isn’t really into regular cake.
Our favorite detail of the wedding was: My favorite detail is that we had an intimate ceremony in my parents’ backyard. When I asked John what his favorite detail was, he said, “My bride.”
What was the biggest challenge you had to overcome while planning your wedding? Distance! Planning a wedding from nearly 3,000 miles away comes with many challenges. Luckily, I have lots of awesome family members and friends in Alabama that stepped up to the plate and really made the wedding possible.
If you are comfortable responding, what range did your wedding budget fall into? $10,000-$25,000
What is the one detail or vendor that you were so happy to have as a part of your wedding? I was happy about pretty much everything involved in our wedding, but our photographer, Kelly Cummings, was exactly what we needed throughout the day. She made sure the whole day flowed the way it should, and ended up being the person I turned to for just about everything. Also, she has given me the most beautiful photos that I will cherish for the rest of my life. Our wedding really would not have been the same without her.
What was your most memorable moment about your wedding day? The most memorable moment was probably the fire. Right as we were leaving, one of the sparklers set the guest book tablecloth ablaze. We were already in the car, but watching that happen and seeing all the guests scramble to save the guest book (which was heroically saved—thank goodness) was an interesting and memorable end to an eventful day.
What advice do you have for folks currently planning a wedding? Don’t try to live up to anybody’s expectations—make the day about you and your husband. At the end of the day, you aren’t going to have a perfect wedding or meet everyone’s expectations of what it should have been. Though, if you let go and make decisions that feel right, y’all will have a happy day to look back on. For some more practical advice: get that guest list hammered out as soon as possible! Putting together that list with all the correct details was one of my biggest hurdles. Also, don’t fret over little details. As long as you have vendors you trust and respect, all the details will come together in a beautiful way.
What’s next for you as a couple? What are you most looking forward to about married life? We are looking forward to so many things. Mostly, we are looking forward to future travels, but we are also very excited to start looking for a house to call our own. The thing we look forward to most about being married is growing together and starting a little family.

Photographer: Kelly Cummings of Spindle Photography | Ceremony Venue: Bride’s parents’ backyard | Reception Venue: The Avondale Villa | Florist: Mandy Majerik of Hot House Design Studio | Wedding Cakes: Edgar’s Bakery | Caterer: Yellow Bicycle Catering | Bride’s Gown: Christos Eloisa | Paper Products: Paper Source | Hair Stylist: Mark Hyde at SalonU | Bride’s Shoes: Badgley Mischka | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: J.Crew Louisa in Dusty Shale | Groom’s Attire: J.Crew | Groomsmen Attire: J.Crew shirts and Forever 21 ties

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lisa Written with love by Lisa
4 Comments
  1. avatar Nicole reply

    That puppy! And how funny that Laura asked John to propose a second time — I’ve read so many proposal stories where the bride doesn’t remember a word the groom said, so I’m glad she asked for a repeat :)

  2. avatar Morgan Trinker reply

    SO gorgeous! Kelly captured this one perfectly. Love Laura and John’s style, and love their story even more! :)

  3. avatar Dana reply

    the picture with the bridesmaids all petting the puppy is such a great shot! what an interesting venue too!

  4. avatar Katie reply

    I think Laura’s wedding was gorgeous. So ram tic and well done! I would love to know where her earrings came from! I’m in love with them!

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Hello, friends! One of my great passions in life is making sure that brides get GOOD information throughout their wedding planning journey (because we all know there is a lot of BAD information out there). It’s probably no surprise, then, that one of the first things any friend or acquaintance of mine does upon getting engaged is call me up. AND I LOVE THAT!! Nothing makes me happier than helping others plan a wedding — in fact, I much prefer it to planning my own :) But, since I can’t consult with each of you individually, I thought I’d lay out some of the first advice I’d give to my own BFF, were she to ask. (She’s not engaged yet, but mercy you know I’m eagerly anticipating that phone call!)

1. Spread the news. Start with your parents, of course, then move out in concentric circles to siblings, best friends, and other close relatives (especially older ones who would appreciate hearing the news directly from you). If possible, deliver the news in person; if not, over the phone. Depending on your family dynamic, I think a group email to more distant relatives is perfectly acceptable. After all the VIPs have been notified, feel free to let loose on Facebook or Instagram!

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2. Put an organization system in place. Once you’re engaged, paperwork and information will mysteriously start to accumulate faster than butter melting on a biscuit, so figure out a way to corral it. We can’t recommend our Joyful Wedding Planner enough, since it comes with tons of useful information AND allows you to clip in contracts and info from vendors along the way!

Al Gawlick

3. If you haven’t done so already, start saving — and start the budget conversation. Even if you might not know exactly how much your wedding will cost, it’s a pretty good bet that it will be expensive. Like all expensive things, the sooner you start saving, the smaller the amount per month you need to save, and therefore the less painful it will be. Thankfully, even though it’s nearly impossible to know how much the wedding in your head will cost before talking to vendors, it’s still possible to set your budget, because your budget should be based on the amount of money you have, not the amount of money you want to spend. In addition to tallying whatever you and your fiance will contribute, check in with both sets of parents (if they haven’t made the first move). I would recommend going into the conversation with a grateful heart and without expectations, and being thankful for any contribution they might want to make. Lots more budgeting advice here.

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4. Dream a little. Yep, even before thinking about a guest list, I’d encourage you to dream a little. After all, if you and your fiance decide that the perfect wedding for you is a intimate destination luau, that will certainly affect your guest list! Some gals will know right out of the gate what type of wedding they want (or, let’s be honest, years before) — and some will have absolutely no idea. Either way, it’s okay! Hop on Pinterest or crack open your issue of SW and start pulling images that appeal to you. Aside from individual details, I’d really encourage you to think about how you want your wedding to feel — the individual details will follow from there. John and I had a couple of key phrases for our wedding — classic elegance, tradition with a light heart, easy and effortless, and intentional — and I kept them in mind when making every decision. Super helpful.

Ben and Colleen

5. Draw up a guest count. Once you’ve got a rough idea of what sort of wedding you might be interested, it’s time to start thinking about who might attend. Ask your parents for their ideal lists, and draw up one of your own. There will be plenty of time later to add or subtract, but at this stage, all you want to know is whether you’re dealing with 50 people or 500.

Dixie Pixel

6. Figure out where (in general) and when (in general) you want to get married. For some couples, the where might be a snap decision — maybe it’s the bride’s hometown, a family vacation spot, or the city where you both live now. For others, there might be a range of possibilities that need to be narrowed down. Same with the when. John and I knew that there was no other month for us besides September, but my sister in law and future brother in law (who just got engaged — whoo!) were considering months from January 2014 to April 2014 to October 2014. Openness like that is great because it gives you more flexibility with venues, but it also leaves a lot of things in flux — namely, how much time you have to plan.

Polly Alexandre

7. Book a venue, and start thinking about priority vendors. I would not recommend booking any other vendor (or even buying your dress) before you’ve signed on the dotted line for a venue. However, if there’s a photographer or videographer or any other vendor you have your heart absolutely set on, absolutely reach out to them as you narrow down dates to make sure their schedules are clear. John and I knew that we needed a date that worked for our venue, photographer, and officiant, so we made sure all three were in the loop before confirming September 15.

Tec Petaja

8. Insure your ring. Your jeweler will likely have provided an appraisal by a certified independent gemologist with your purchase; if not, make sure you get one. Many existing homeowner’s or renter’s policies allow you to add a jewelery rider, but there are also great options for a separate policy. Whichever you choose, find out if you’re covered if the ring is lost, stolen, or damaged, as well as how the replacement value is calculated.

Friends! I’d love to hear from you. Who was the first person you told about your engagement? What did you book first?

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emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Kristin reply

    Yes! I love this advice – both practical and thoughtful. The engagement season is so special. Our first phone call was to my parents – well after midnight!! Imagine my surprise when they were still awake and sitting by the phone waiting for us to call (I think they answered on half of a ring *wink*). We spent the next day calling family and close friends and soaking in the first moments of being engaged. It was so fun to get to share such big news with the people that mean the most to us before digging into all the planning.

  2. avatar Chamaine// All in a Soiree reply

    Great insightful article

  3. avatar Corinna Hoffman reply

    Great advice!

  4. avatar Ashleigh reply

    Very good advice! All the big things to consider when starting off- for sure! We called our parents first and then other family members and then BFFs, etc. We spent 3 hours calling people that night and a few the next day making sure everyone knew before it was leaked on social media. We booked our venue, photographer, caterer all within a week of getting engaged! And now we are just 10 tiny days away from the biggest one! Exciting to see it all coming together now!

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  7. avatar Nancy Ray reply

    Love this helpful advice, Em! I agree wholeheartedly. In reference to #1, I called my mom and my sister first, followed by the concentric circles you recommended. However, I did not call or text my cousin Michael, who I grew up with and graduated HS with. He was pretty bummed that he found out through Facebook! So, to echo your words of wisdom, it’s important NOT to rush things on social media. Think through everyone who is important to you, and tell them first!

    Great post. I’m saving this for some friends who might be getting engaged soon!

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  13. avatar Rene reply

    WOW! I really needed to hear all of these tips! I am 20 years old and just recently got engaged to the love of my life and am beyond excited about planning our wedding. I am absolutely have always dreamed a real southern wedding! I would love to hear more advise!!!!!!!

  14. avatar Lindsay Everistta Bridal reply

    Very good advice! We booked our venue first to set the tone of the wedding and the photographer came next. This was before the days of Pinterest. I had a 100 page ppt deck of inspiration! Lol!

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Y’all, I’m not going to lie! I literally went from laughing out loud to crying seconds later while I just read about Lisa + Eric’s nautical-inspired big day. You don’t want to miss Eric’s clever proposal story or Lisa’s dress adventure!

Once I started looking at the photos from Kristin Moore I loved seeing all of Lisa’s DIY projects she wrote about come to life with the help of her family and friends. And to top it off? Lisa + Eric are not only dog people, but rescue dog people! My favorite kind, because as you know I firmly believe that #rescuedogsarethebestdogs!

Did you have something borrowed, blue, old, and new? If so, do tell! My something blue was my toes, which are always painted blue, probably since I was in college! I had two “borrowed” items: the beautiful pearl jewelry from my Aunt Lori, and the veil that my Matron of Honor, Christa, had worn at her wedding. My something old was the penny in my shoe that my Grandma Sue gave me as I was getting dressed for the ceremony—it has been passed down in the family for several generations. And my something new? I guess everything else—the shoes, dress and garter!

We had very simple arrangements. We ordered our flowers from Rappahannock Florist. They put together all our bouquets, boutonnieres, and wrist flowers. My bridal bouquet was big sunflowers and blue hydrangeas, and it was absolutely perfect. We also ordered over 100 sunflower stems from them. My wonderful friends helped cut the stems and put together simple, elegant mason jars of sunflowers for both our ceremony aisles and table centerpieces. Lovely!

A pre-first look bride myself, I love hearing about couples who opt not to see each other before the ceremony!

We decided not to do a first look. We might have had more time to enjoy the cocktail hour, and get more photos after the ceremony if we had done a “first look.” But, when I came around the corner in front of all of our closest friends and family and saw my husband’s face light up and literally tear up at the sight of me, I knew that we made the right choice. Nothing could beat that moment! My husband was actually amazed to see me in a true wedding dress. After all of my complaining about wedding dresses, and hints about cutting half the length off, etc., I am not sure what he thought was going to come down the aisle, but I know he was knocked off his feet!

Seriously? I want to love on Alice’s sweet face! P.S. Don’t let BDK know that, he’s already ready for a bunch of new rescue pups!

The BIG hit of the wedding was the bourbon bar set up on the beach! My uncle planned and set that one up, and it was the most popular spot. It was decorated with an old trunk, driftwood, and duck decoys, and offered several types of bourbon to taste. There was a crowd around the bourbon bar and fire pits all night long. The location on the beach, under the stars, was magical.

What Southern details or traditions did you include in your celebration? What was Southern about your wedding? Our venue itself is full of history. We rented Pop Castle, located on the Rappahannock River, as a vacation home rental for three nights. It is a registered Virginia Historic Landmark and on the National Registry of Historic Homes because of its rich history—it was the site of a Civil War battle, and took gunfire from British gunboats during the War of 1812. We tried to include many aspects that would honor the area we were in. We had a big crab feast the night before our wedding, open to all our guests. Our wedding ceremony and reception were all outdoors on the back lawn of the house, under two big oak trees. My dad made our arch, built from two wooden white shutters. Our centerpieces included sea glass and driftwood we had collected at a nearby beach. We made the burlap runners and yellow gingham napkins for each table ourselves. We had many activities for guests to enjoy, which created a great, casual atmosphere: corn hole and ladder golf in the grass, a tree swing under an oak tree, dancing under the stars, and fire pits and drinks on the beach. We also had a sweets buffet that was on a beautiful old table with crab pots, sunflowers, and driftwood for décor. We had orange and maroon popcorn to pay homage to Virginia Tech. I created a sign with Johnny Cash’s lyrics “The taste of love is sweet when hearts like ours meet.”

We were so excited about our wedding cake. It was beautiful on the outside, three tiers with blue and yellow ribbon, and a beautiful sunflower on it. But the inside was our favorite part—almond flavored funfetti! It was a hit with all our friends and family too. Hope it’s as tasty on our one-year anniversary!! The wedding cake was displayed on an old dresser that my aunt refinished for us, and we now use it as a front entry table in our home.

How did y’all meet? Tell us your love story. We met in college at Virginia Tech, during my senior year of undergrad, while he was finishing a master’s program. We spent most weekends together hiking, loyally attending Virginia Tech football games, going out for drinks, dinners, or movies and more during that first year of dating. We weren’t sure where it was headed after graduating in 2006, and we were both a bit commitment-phobic, but continued to let things grow naturally. We traveled together, spent holidays and vacations with each other’s families, kept going to Virginia Tech football games, moved into an apartment together, adopted our dog together. Seven years after first meeting, we are fully committed and can’t imagine life without each other! :-)
Tell us all about the proposal! Eric asked for my parents’ “blessing” the week before Memorial Day 2011 without my knowing. We spend each Memorial Day weekend in the Northern Neck of Virginia, where my Aunt Lori and Uncle Steve have a beautiful house on Indian Creek. My parents, grandparents, and aunt and uncle were all together on the porch after lunch, when Eric came out with a sheet of paper with a Pictionary-style puzzle on it. It is a tradition on our family weekends in the Northern Neck to come up with silly rhyming picture puzzles. This one was a picture of a grill, a shoe, a berry, and a bee — which rhymed to translate to “will you marry me”! At the same time, our dog, Alice, came out with a large napkin ring diamond on her collar! We picked out the official ring together later, but I still have the napkin “ring” in my jewelry box! We sat on the hammock overlooking the creek while we called the rest of our friends and family to tell them the news. We had a close-knit family celebration for the rest of the weekend. It was wonderful.
When did y’all get married? September 15, 2012
How many friends, family members, and loved ones attended your wedding? 100
Tell us about finding your wedding dress. I hate shopping for clothes! I hated shopping for a wedding dress even more. I didn’t want something heavy, and all the dresses I tried on at the first store felt heavy and suffocating! I didn’t even know the difference between white and ivory when I walked in…drop waist? Sweetheart? –WHAT?! That trip didn’t go well. The second place was a place called “I Do, I Do,” which offers secondhand wedding dresses. I went with my mom, Kathy, and my aunt, Lori. By then, I knew I wanted a dress that had some kind of straps, and a shorter length, because we were planning an outdoor ceremony. I wanted something I would feel comfortable in and be able to move around in the grass in! Tea-length dresses I tried on made me feel like an oompa loompa because I am on the shorter side, and the dresses floofed out a lot. It didn’t take me long to find a dress, because I knew what I wanted, and I wasn’t looking to spend hours searching. After trying on about three dresses, we found a beautiful “sweetheart” dress that had a halter-style top and small beaded accents all over. The only problem was that it was a full-length dress. The woman at the store said I could get it altered to be a shorter style. It was perfect. We ended up getting it altered to mid-length, a few inches below my knees and it turned out to be comfortable, light, pretty, and best of all, perfect for ME!
Did you write your own vows? If so, what was your favorite phrase, verse or line? We did write our own vows. We ended up finishing them up just the day before the wedding! Eric sat on the end of the dock on the river to write his, and I sat under a beautiful oak tree to finish mine. Eric promised to “always be the last one out of bed in the morning!”—and he has remained true to that one! I said “Together, we’ll make every experience into an adventure.” Of course, we both mentioned our dog, Alice, in our vows as well!
What readings, if any, did you have at your ceremony? We chose readings that were light-hearted, yet full in the message of love. We had two readings in our ceremony, read by our closest friends and family. One of my best friends, Sumita, who I have known since I was four, read, “Everything I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” by Robert Fulgham. My now sister-in-law, Karen, read, “How Falling in Love Is Like Owning a Dog” by Taylor Mali. Since we are dog people, and obsessed with our rescue dog, Alice, it was very fitting.
Tell us about some of the songs you used throughout your wedding and why you chose them. Originally, we wanted Violin String Quartet’s cover of Paradise, by Coldplay for the aisle walk (our DJ couldn’t get the song to play). Instead, I walked down the aisle to Israel Kamakawiwo’ole’s version of “Somewhere Over the Rainbow,” which did end up being a nice selection. However, it was almost “Love and Marriage,” which our DJ played right beforehand! (NOT on our play list!). Our DJ was a last-minute choice when our other DJ didn’t work out. Although he wasn’t able to do any of the songs on the playlist we had created (which we had spent hours needlessly creating!), people still danced all night! Our first dance song was Michael Buble’s “Everything.” We wanted something light and sweet, and we have seen Michael Buble in concert and really enjoy his music. I am not a dancer, so I was dreading this part of the night, but we made it short and sweet, and made it through!
Our favorite detail of the wedding was: All the DIY and found items from friends and family! My aunt searched high and low for mason jars, apothecary jars, crab baskets, string lights, duck decoys, and more at thrift shops and yard sales. The burlap table runners were made from the leftovers of another person’s wedding. We hand made all the decorative elements, from the centerpieces, chalkboard escort cards, guest book, and wood direction signs, to the ceremony programs and arch! Those elements made our wedding unique and personal, and guests remarked on how “us” it was!
What was the biggest challenge you had to overcome while planning your wedding? The biggest challenge was that we did everything essentially on our own. We rented a house meant as a vacation rental, so we had to figure out all the logistics on our own—renting the fancy port-a-potty trailer, beverages, moving chairs and tables, lighting candles, figuring out what to do with trash and recycling—all on our own. We were so lucky to have gracious friends and family who jumped in to help with many wedding projects beforehand, as well as with set up and clean up the day of! We would have been lost without them! Having a DIY wedding without a wedding planner or coordinator still seems crazy when I look back, but somehow, it did end up working! We also fretted about the weather leading up to the day and rented a tent just in case, but the experience would have been totally different with bad weather. We completely lucked out.
If you are comfortable responding, what range did your wedding budget fall into? $25,000-$50,000
What is the one detail or vendor that you were so happy to have as a part of your wedding? Our photographer, Kristin Moore, was phenomenal. So many guests commented on how much they enjoyed her and thought she did a good job. She caught all the little details of our wedding, which captured the work of so many of our friends and family. Although I am very uncomfortable in front of a camera, she made me feel so at ease! Half the time, I didn’t realize she was taking photos of me, so she caught very real moments in time. She even stood knee-deep in the river to get photos of us on the dock, nearly falling all the way in!
What was your most memorable moment about your wedding day? My mom passed away three months after our wedding, while we were away on our honeymoon. So the most memorable thing about our wedding day was that my WHOLE family was together and got to share so many wonderful moments together, even just getting ready for the wedding, and the morning of the wedding—a memorable breakfast with just family on the dock on the river. With family spread out into North Carolina and Canada, we are so lucky that our wedding provided the opportunity for us all to be together. Bottom line—the time spent with family and friends really can’t be topped. It all goes by so quickly, but what I remember most is the flashes of moments with different friends and family just laughing, dancing and sitting in the sand by the fire pits. It was a celebration not just of us, but of all the people who brought us together.
What advice do you have for folks currently planning a wedding? My advice is enjoy it and don’t stress out! It will go by SO. FAST. Even when our not-so-awesome DJ played “Love and Marriage” moments before I walked down the aisle, instead of the music we had picked out, it has made for a very memorable story and a good laugh. Take everything in stride, because the parts that matter—your vows to each other, and the people who are there supporting you—nothing can muff those parts up! Also, accept the support and help from your family and friends! With a very DIY wedding, we couldn’t have pulled it off without so many people chipping in and helping prepare the weekend of the wedding, and beforehand. The fact that our wedding was created by so many hands made it more special. We can look at all the elements of the day and know that it was truly about our family and friends coming together and being a part of it all with us. Also, do not wait until the last minute for those details that you “think” you will have time to do or finish. You won’t have time. Oh man, that is a big one!
What’s next for you as a couple? What are you most looking forward to about married life? We are taking a second honeymoon this year (our last one was cut short). We are headed to Colorado to explore Rocky Mountain National Park, Aspen, Denver and more! We are very excited. We moved into our first house last year, a few months before our wedding—very hectic! We are looking forward to working on our house now, and making it our home. The next room we are working on is a cozy, magical, and, of course, romantic retreat for our master bedroom! We are also enjoying that things have slowed down now, so we can enjoy many more happily married adventures together, like traveling, continuing to work on our new house, and spending time with friends and family, and our dog Alice, every chance we get.

Photographer: Kristin Moore | Ceremony Venue: “Pop Up Castle” in White Stone, VA | Florist: Rappahannock Florist and Gifts | Wedding Cake: The Cake Man Bakery | Caterer: Willaby’s Cafe and Catering | Rentals: Rappahannock Rentals Inc/Party Line | DJ: Disc Jockeys Now | Bride’s Gown: I Do I Do Wedding Gowns | Paper Products: Smarty Had A Party | Hair Stylist: Heads Up Hairworks | Makeup Artist: Merle Norman Cosmetics with Jennifer Bishop | Bride’s Shoes: Touch Ups by Benjamin Walk Corporation | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: David’s Bridal, Horizon Blue Color |  Groom’s and Groomsmen Attire: Jos. A. Bank

marissa Written with love by Marissa
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  1. avatar Kristin reply

    Thank you so much for this lovely feature. Lisa and Eric’s wedding was incredible and it was so touching to read through their story!

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