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As y’all know, I normally talk about Southern wedding traditions – from the sweet to the kind of wacky! Well, today’s tradition is not necessarily associated with weddings, but it still features a lovely lady (ies) in a gorgeous white gown, so we thought y’all might be interested!

Photos by Beatrice de Gea for the New York Times

That’s right, today we’re discussing the Debutante Cotillion. Also known as the Deb Ball, this Southern tradition is a formal presentation of young ladies – debutantes – to society. During the ball, the young ladies are to be wearing white gowns with satin gloves. Each is formally introduced individually to the audience in standard way: her full name is announced, she is walked around the stage by her father for the official presentation, and then her younger male escort joins her and escorts her away.

Recognize that gorgeous redhead? That’s our Editor in Chief Ms. Lara Casey at her own Debutante Cotillion! Isn’t she stunning?

Back to business! A debutante is a young lady, traditionally from an aristocratic family, who has reached the age of maturity. Now that she is an adult, she is introduced to society at a formal “debut” presentation. Interesting to note, while doing my homework, I found that Wikipedia offers Southern Belle as the synonym for a debutante!  In another fun fact, the Christmas Cotillion in Savannah, Georgia, is the oldest debutante ball in the United States, beginning in 1817.

Photos by Beatrice de Gea for the New York Times

I’m a bit partial to cotillions, not because I was a debutante (I’m still sad I was never able to be an Azalea Trail Maid!), but because my sister in law’s debutante ball was my husband’s and my first official outing as a couple! And yes, my husband rocked a pink bow tie and cummerbund set!

Were you a debutante? Did you have a cotillion, or have you ever attended one? 

P.S. Looking for a laugh? Take a gander at what my beloved Azalea Trail Maids wear! Yes, they wear those to this day! SO awesome! :)

marissa Written with love by Marissa
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  1. avatar molly stillman reply

    LOVE it. i was never a debutante, sadly… but kinda always dreamed of being one (my 17-year-old self would not have admitted that at the time…)

    but OH MYLANTA those Azalea Trail Maids are out. of. control. hahahaha i want that dress. to wear. all over town.

    just kidding.

    sort of.

  2. avatar Katie O’Keefe reply

    I was born in Mobile and as I little girl I always wanted to be an Azalea Trail Maid. However, due to my father’s military service we moved out of the country when I was eight. Such a shame…I always wanted the “Gone with the Wind” gown!

  3. avatar Andi reply

    Marissa~ Are you from Mobile?? I am from Fairhope and always wanted to be a Dogwood Trail Maid but didn’t quite make it! I was in the Nutcracker Charity Deb Ball in Mobile a few years back! Great fun!

    • avatar Marissa reply

      Hi Andi! Yes, I am from Mobile!! I moved before I was old enough to be an ATM! SO sad! I was actually one for Halloween for like 3 years in a row! I never went to the Nutcracker Ball, but I WAS in the Nutcracker for the Mobile Ballet!! xx

  4. avatar Patti reply

    I’m sorry you were never an Azalea Trail Maid, Marissa – but I do remember you rocking an Azalea Trail Maid costume for Halloween one year!

    • avatar Marissa reply

      It’s okay, Mom! I’ve come to terms with it! : ) I loved that costume – such a great thrift store find! I love you!

  5. avatar Lara reply

    Oh my! HAHA! Yes, that is me in a wedding gown at the age of 17 (I think). It was fun!

  6. avatar Ashley reply

    My best friend’s little sister was an Azalea Trail Maid a couple years ago…so adorable!

  7. avatar Courtney {pizzazzerie} reply

    So cool! I was a deb in North Carolina during sophomore year of college. Very hilarious to put on a wedding dress then. Excited to wear my real one in a few months, but at least the days of “debbing” got me prepared! haha

  8. avatar Desiree reply

    True Story – I was kicked out of debs!! And I later came to find out that my mother was kicked out as well when she was a teenager! Completely different reasons but it’s still our own “family tradition” :) The secret’s in the sauce y’all! wink wink LOL

  9. avatar Holly Gardner reply

    Oh, dear heavens this made me laugh. I have to confess that I was an Azalea Trail girl! It was horrible, but I’ll probably make my daughter do it when she gets to that age too. Hilarious! :)

  10. avatar Ashley Daniell {Ashley Daniell Photography} reply

    OMG, how embarrassing is this picture?!? I’m mortified it’s on the world wide web! Hahaha Ahh, memories Lara!

  11. avatar Wendy Robinson reply

    Ah…the memories! I was a deb in 19**…ahem…and I remember my dress was exquisite! My mother took me to the best bridal shop in town and let me choose my favorite. I’ll always remember the look on the salon owners face when I told her how old I was. When I told her that I was 17, her jaw dropped! She looked quite shocked that we were there for a wedding gown! Mom explained that it was for my cotillion, but I couldn’t resist a good laugh! LOL

  12. avatar Wendy Robinson reply

    Oh and practicing that curtsy for so many weeks prior!! Yeesh!!

  13. avatar Sierra reply

    You would never guess it, but I was in Cotillion until we moved from Tennessee to rural Ohio in middle school. I remember my mom taking me to Hallmark to pick out the nicest formal stationery they had to learn the etiquette of writing thank you letters and addressing envelopes (this was in third or fourth grade!). We also had timed place-setting competitions, a topic in which I need a refresher course for sure. In high school, I was often other people’s date for the Cotillion dances, but I never officially rejoined. Being a Deb is certainly an important Southern tradition for many girls I’m friends with. Thanks, M!

  14. avatar Kelly Cummings reply

    Oh my, those dresses for the Azalea Trail Maids make me thing of Rainbow Row in Charleston! Also, how gorgeous is Lara?!

  15. avatar Kim Ross reply

    Yes, I was a deb back in 19??! It was a great experience!

  16. avatar Kacey Hanslik reply

    So why do debs sometime referred to as “duchess”? I just had a friend post something about her being a duchess now?

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This week is like my dream come true on the Southern Weddings blog! Not only do I love birthdays, but I love sweets. So today, we’re offering up TWO giveaways!

Emily was the first person who pointed out Sweeteeth’s amazing line of chocolate bars, bon bons and sauces to me. I was so excited to be able to partner with them for a giveaway. Really, y’all, just take a look! Isn’t your mouth watering?

Johnny (an Alabama native!), Sweeteeth’s owner and chocolatier creates unique chocolates in flavors that look as good as they taste. Plus, we love their fun names and cool packaging. Sweeteeth is based in Charleston, so we’re confident that these chocolately treats will add a yummy splash of the South to any wedding.

We’re taking a cue from Sweeteeth and getting creative with our desserts. That’s why we’re really excited to be giving away Courtney Dial Whitmore of Pizzazzerie’s book, Push-Up Pops! I wish y’all could see the recipes inside this thing. Only one word could describe them: yum. Who knew red velvet cake and banana pudding could look so adorable in a push pop?

To Enter: There are two ways to enter!
1. Leave a comment below telling us which chocolate bar speaks most to your sweet tooth OR which dessert you would put in a push pop!
2. Tweet “I just entered the Sweeteeth + Push-Up Pops giveaway on @iloveswmag!” Then come back here and leave a SEPARATE comment telling us you did so.

Win: A $50 gift card to Sweeteeth OR the Push-Up Pops book by Courtney Dial Whitmore!

This giveaway will close on April 13. Good luck y’all!

Don’t forget to enter our other birthday giveaways!
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nicoleyang Written with love by Nicole
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  1. avatar Kelly Edm reply

    I tweeted the giveaway!

    https://twitter.com/#!/jarslikejam/status/187513012293345280

  2. avatar Kelly Edm reply

    I think I’d like to try the cinnamon, apple and pecan bar from Sweeteeth. Yum! Of course, the salted caramel also looks divine.

  3. avatar Emily Lawrence reply

    Sea is for caramel looks amazing! I am always up for a combination of salty and sweet.

  4. avatar Laura reply

    I think I would try a key lime pie in a push-up pop. Mmmmm, that sounds good!

  5. avatar Meg S reply

    If there were any feasible way to get a crepe in a push pop, I would be all over that.

  6. avatar Lindy reply

    Salted caramel… yummm!!!! And hi to Courtney, my sorority sister from Vanderbilt! A big WOO to you for your success as an author!!!

  7. avatar Olivia S reply

    I LOVE the idea of the ‘call of the wild bar’. Caramel, port wine, and chocolate? There is no possible way that could go wrong.

  8. avatar Laura P reply

    The ‘Sea is for Caramel’ Sweeteeth bar sounds delicious to me – I love that classic salty + sweet combo!

  9. avatar Laura reply

    Seriously, this week’s giveaways have made me hungry every time. The cinnapsis chocolate bar looks divine: cinnamon, apples, and pecans in chocolate!

  10. avatar Amy Kennedy reply

    Call of the Wild – port wine caramel – is there even a question!!!

  11. avatar Vanessa reply

    My family hails from Central America which means I like everything with spice. Combine that with peanut butter and you have a masterpiece. My vote is for the Peanut Butter + Chipotle, keeping my fingers crossed :)

  12. avatar Megan D. reply

    Some delicious Sea is for Carmel sounds amazing!!

  13. avatar Anna A. reply

    The Port Wine Caramel sauce sounds delicious!

  14. avatar Nancy Oben reply

    Those chocolate bars look so decadent.

  15. avatar Leah Romulus reply

    I would love to try a dark chocolate bar from Sweeteeth! YUM!

  16. avatar Rhian reply

    All the chocolate bars sound delicious but if I had to pick one to try first it would be the A’Chocolypse!

  17. avatar Rhian reply

    I tweeted: https://twitter.com/#!/JASIVRAS/status/187632061228650497

  18. avatar Kelsey Bjelland reply

    Salted caramel sauce?? Get out! I’m so hungry now!

  19. avatar Cecilia reply

    If you could get a Texas chocolate sheet cake with pecans and vanilla ice cream in a push pop I would be in heaven!

  20. avatar Sam Crisp reply

    Mmmmmmm sea is for caramel looks divine!

  21. avatar Afton reply

    First of all, I LOVE chocolate!!! The Sea is for Caramel bar looks amazing. There are not many things greater than the pairing of chocolate, caramel and salt!

  22. avatar megan reply

    call of the wild chocolate sounds delish!

  23. avatar megan reply

    and i tweeted at @meg1t.

  24. avatar Sarah reply

    I would put a brownie sundae in a push pop :) YUM!

  25. avatar Paige reply

    Tough choice, but I think I’d go for the salted caramel!

  26. avatar Michelle D. reply

    They all sound great but i would choose Cinnapsis.

  27. avatar Kristy reply

    I would try strawberry shortcake for the push pop : )

  28. avatar Kristy reply

    I would try strawberry shortcake for a push pop :)

  29. avatar Kassi reply

    i would do a red velvet and shortcake with strawberries push pop

  30. avatar Charity S reply

    I would put a sweet potato pie in a push pop.

  31. avatar Charity S reply

    tweet
    https://twitter.com/#!/ccboobooy/status/188110434774163456

  32. avatar Alex reply

    I would love to try the salted caramel bar

  33. avatar Elizabeth @ HobbyLobbyist reply

    Everything is better in a push pop… I think it could be my favorite way to eat cheesecake ever.

  34. avatar Amanda Zerra reply

    I would most certainly put Tiramisu in a push up pop. How fab and delicious!

  35. avatar Amanda Zerra reply

    I also just tweeted! @babyglitz

  36. avatar Brittney Perryman reply

    Narrowing my choice down to just one chocolate bar from Sweeteeth that I want to try was TOUGH! My first choice would have to be Call of the Wild! The name drew me in first and when I read the description, I WAS HOOKED! Dark chocolate and caramel that has wine in it?!?! YES PLEASE! In fact, I may just have to order a dozen or two! :)

  37. avatar Brittney Perryman reply

    I just tweeted! My handle is @britmperryman ! Here’s the link: https://twitter.com/#!/britmperryman

    Keep up the fantastic work ladies! I just love y’alls work!

  38. avatar Kate E reply

    I tweeted it!

  39. avatar Kate E reply

    The cinnapsis sounds so delish! Cinnamon apple & pecan, uh yum!!!

  40. avatar Tracy reply

    Ooouu… I must try the Port Wine Caramel chocolate.

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I mentioned last week how much I hate pollen and the icky yellow color it turns everything. That’s why I’m very happy to share Beverly + Craig’s wedding with y’all. The yellow and gray scheme are so bright and modern! When Emily and I first saw Katelyn James’ photos from this wedding, we just raved about the bright yellow pashminas, unique bouquets and two of my favorite things, the sweet bow ties and tempting candy bar!

The thing we love most about this wedding (and well, all the weddings we feature) is how Beverly described the Southern charm that filled this celebration. “One Southern tradition we included in the wedding was good ol’ home cooking. Our menu consisted of family recipes that we grew up eating. Another Southern piece of the day was the deep Southern love that makes you feel like family. We both feel we have been blessed with some of the most remarkable friendships that have become family to us.” Can’t you feel the love? Read on to see just how amazing B + C’s guests were!

Describe your wedding flowers: I never did see my arrangement of my bouquet or my bridesmaid’s bouquets until the wedding day. I found one of the most well-known florists in Fredericksburg, Virginia and put complete trust in her talent with the flowers. I gave her my color scheme and feel for the wedding and she blew me away with the most full, vibrant, and beautiful flowers! My bridesmaids loved their bouquets and could not believe how full they were.
Tell us about finding your wedding dress: I wanted to stick to my roots in fashion, which I believe to be bold, yet classic. I knew I wanted a dress that was cut low in the back because I think this is one of the sexiest parts of a woman’s body and I also knew I wanted some sort of strap. I ended up getting the last dress I tried on! I only went to two stores, and knew I could leave that day with something I loved — and I did! However, I did make some alterations to the dress. I added a strap and changed the neckline to a sweetheart.
Did you decide to do a “first look”? Why or why not? Yes! We decided to do a first look to share the realism with each other that this day was our wedding day. We wanted to be present in every moment and this allowed us to take in what we were about to do.

Did you write your own vows? If so, what was your favorite phrase, verse or line? Yes, we did! My favorite phrases said, “God prepared me for you and so I will ever strengthen, help, comfort, and encourage you. Therefore throughout life, no matter what may be ahead of us, I pledge to you my life as a faithful and loyal wife.”
Tell us about some of the songs you used throughout your wedding. I have absolutely zero musical talent and so I’m told by many that my taste in music is horrific. Craig, on the other hand, enjoys music and is talented. One of my brothers is also very talented with music and we wanted to incorporate his gift of playing music into the wedding. Mark played hymns on his acoustic guitar as the guests arrived to the church. For the processional, Craig came up with a compilation of “Amazing Grace” and “Stand on Grace” by Jimmy Needham. There was such a sweet spirit in the room as three of our friends from college sang the processional. Our friends also lead a time of worship singing “How Deep the Father’s Love For Us” and “Your Great Name.” At the reception, we had two other great friends of ours sing our first dance, “Mercy” by Drew and Ellie Holcomb.
What was your most memorable moment about your wedding day? We loved every moment of our wedding day! However, we would both say the ceremony was the most memorable moment for us! As both sets of parents greeted the guests at the front of the church, they began to find their seats. The sanctuary began to get fuller and fuller with the people we loved the most. The room was filled with an inexpressible joy from our families and friends as they, too, have been waiting for this day. There was such an intimate feeling as we worshipped together and shared our vows in front of the people we hold most dear to our hearts. Before our preacher could even announce us as husband and wife, our guests began cheering, hollering, and clapping for us!

How did the two of you meet? Tell us your story. Craig and I met his freshman year and my junior year at Christopher Newport University. It was late November in 2006 that we both attended an Intervarsity conference where a mutual friend of ours introduced us. Christopher Newport University is a school where, if you don’t know someone, you at least recognize them from being on campus. It happened that I had never seen Craig and was quite struck by his good looks and his confidence. I never asked him what year he was because he looked older. However, once I got home and did my “research” on him on Facebook, I soon realized he was a FRESHMAN!! Being a junior, I quickly became prideful, and said to myself, “That’s sweet. Too bad he’s younger. I’ll never talk to him again.” As the days passed, our circle of friends in college became the same ones.
Describe the proposal. It was Easter weekend of 2010 that I came home to visit Craig. Craig and I had been doing the long distance relationship thing for the past year, so our visits were always special. After lunch, Craig took me to a park where his parents would take him and his brother during their childhood. Craig started to slow down and got really serious on me. That past summer, Craig had interned at Saranac Village, a Young Life camp. At this point in our relationship, Craig and I never had told each other we loved each other. It was something that we both talked about before dating that we didn’t way to say unless we knew we would be marrying each other. While Craig was at camp for that summer, the Lord laid it on my heart to write Craig a letter to express to him that I did love him. Craig began his proposal by reminding me of the letter and then for the first time, told me he loved me. My heart filled with joy as I smiled and told him that I loved him too. He got down on one knee and shared with me how much he loved me, respected me, and cared for me. His smile beamed as his eyes looked deep into mine and he asked me to be his wife. He put the beautiful ring on my finger and I began to scream!! My spirit was overflowing with joy because one of the Lord’s promises unfolded before me.
In what month did you get married? November
How many guests attended your wedding? 200
What was the biggest’ challenge you had to overcome while planning your wedding? Learning how to dance was one of the biggest challenges we had to overcome! In fact, I don’t think we overcame this! Our first dance involved us laughing at each other and Craig moving me around like I was a rag doll because I could not get my feet in step. Thankfully, a long wedding dress hides your feet and we didn’t look like complete fools!
What range did your wedding budget fall into? $10,000-25,0000
What is the one thing you are most happy you splurged on? Photography
What advice do you have for folks currently planning a wedding? When the planning starts to become a job, take a break. I got too caught up in what my wedding was going to look like on my photographer’s blog that it took away the joy of my planning. I started to compare my wedding with others and thinking that it wasn’t going to be as good. This was a lie! Each wedding is uniquely different and special in its own way. Remember you and your soon-to-be spouse have a story. Don’t compare yourself. Have freedom in planning by being focused on the major detail: you are marrying your best friend!

Photographer: Katelyn James Photography // Planner: Anna Burke Events // Ceremony venue: Cobham Park Baptist Church // Reception venue: St. Margaret’s School // Florist:Jan Williams Florist // Caterer: St. Margaret’s School // Rentals: Clements Tent Rentals // Paper Products: Handmade by bride // Bride’s Dress: Jasmine Bridal // Veil: Handmade by bride // Bride’s Shoes: Tory Burch // Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Bari Jay in shadow // Ties: Southern Ties

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Alaina + Ryan’s cotton-filled wedding here
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Tara + Chris’ California ranch wedding here and here

nicoleyang Written with love by Nicole
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  1. avatar molly reply

    EEEEK! i literally SQUEALED when i saw this come across my RSS feed (Nerd, i know). I LOOOOOOOOVE this wedding so much, i love this couple, and i (obvi) love katelyn james (cause she photographed my wedding!). GAH! gorgeous. love love love!

  2. avatar Alysha reply

    I agree with Molly! This wedding is absolutely gorgeous! The dress, the brides hair, the flowers, the yellow and grey. Beautiful!

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  4. avatar Tim Duncan reply

    I have such a soft spot for a yellow and gray wedding, and this is no different! I love how everything is put together! :) Gorgeous!

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  6. avatar Karina reply

    great pictures! I love the yellow accents!

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