Welcome to another round of Southern Etiquette! This week, I thought we’d focus on those lovely ladies who help ensure a smooth and fun wedding day: the bridesmaids. We hear from a lot of younger brides who are the first in their group of friends to get married, and are dealing with a gaggle of maids who are eager but slightly clueless as to the ins and outs of bridesmaidhood. Those who are struggling, consider this your print-and-save guide to being the South’s best bridesmaid. And my experienced maids out there? Feel free to chime in in the comment section. We’d love to hear from you!
—Attend pre-wedding events, especially the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Send your regrets promptly if you won’t be able to attend.
—Arrange and pay for own transportation, both on the wedding day and to travel to the wedding. If the bride and groom are arranging transportation, you’re expected to partake.
—Contribute to attendants’ group gifts to the bride and groom, if applicable, or give an individual gift
—Understand specific duties and follow instructions. Very important! As fun as the whole Pam-and-Jim-Office-wedding-Chris-Brown ceremony entrance was, it could have been devastating for a less-relaxed couple.
—Arrive at specified times for all wedding-related events. Again, very important! A bride has enough potential stressors on her wedding day without adding tardy maids to the list.
—Assist the bride throughout her wedding day. Yes, this might require an accompanied trip to the restroom. Such is life as a bridesmaid.
—Be attentive to other guests at the wedding and reception. Help make the day a Southern wedding to be proud of: assist the elderly when they need it, lend a hand with young children, be gracious, get on the dance floor, alert guests to reception events like the cake cutting and first dance, and generally lend a hand when you can.
–Nice, but not mandatory: host or co-host a shower or bachelorette party
What do you think, ladies? Anything you’d add to this list? Something you’d remove? Let me know!
All images in header c/o Millie Holloman