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For today’s Sweet Tea Sunday, we couldn’t be happier to share some marriage advice from a couple we know and love: Eric of Eric Kelley Photography and Lora of Lora Kelley Styling and Makeup. Not only are these two a dynamite pair of wedding vendors, they’re also husband and wife and the parents of two darling kiddos. They recently celebrated their five-year anniversary (happy anniversary, Kelleys!), and here’s the advice they shared with us.

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Take a long honeymoon. It’s one of the only times that people won’t bug you for being unavailable, for almost as long as you want.

Have good friends that you can have real, open conversations with about how your lives are going and what you are feeling.

Get away more often than you think you need to: date night once a week, a weekend or overnight away every once in awhile.

Either go to bed together or wake up together everyday.

Know that when you have kids, they are going to rule your life and try to divide you, and you need to figure out how to love your spouse every day in spite of that happening.

Elizabeth Messina

Keep up with Eric:
Blog: Eric Kelley Photography
Facebook: Eric Kelley Photography
Instagram: @erickelley
Twitter: @erickelley

Keep up with Lora:
Website: Lora Kelley Styling and Makeup
Facebook: Lora Kelley
Instagram: @lora_kelley
Twitter: @lorakelley

lisa Written with love by Lisa
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  1. avatar Lora Kelley reply

    Love you ladies!! Such a treat to be on here! :)

  2. avatar Mallory Joyce reply

    Such sage advice! And from such a wonderful couple. Love this feature, Lisa! xo

  3. avatar Emily reply

    Love this family – what a sweet photo! And I’m dying over the wedding photo — y’all look like babies!!

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Hello, belles! Happy to see you on a Sunday! :) Those of you who picked up a copy of Southern Weddings V6 surely saw our two marriage advice features, “To Love and To Cherish” and “All the Days of My Life.” From your feedback, we know they’ve been some of the most popular! Over the next several weeks, we’re going to be highlighting and expanding on the nuggets of wisdom we shared in print from some of the smartest and most insightful married gals (and guys!) we know. From folks married less than a year to couples married 40+ years, they all have wonderful thoughts to share. We’re kicking off this series with advice from our very own Kristin Winchester — we hope you enjoy!

From Kristin Winchester, Southern Weddings’ Blue Ribbon Vendor Director, married to Kyle Winchester one year at time of V6’s publication (see their wedding here!):

Inherently a good marriage starts LONG before you say I do. It starts with being patient, trusting God and actively seeking the right person to share in the adventures of marriage. Of course, this same patience, trust and effort must follow you for a successful marriage to become a reality. Marriage is magical, but it is foolish to think that good marriage just happens. It takes hard work and dedication; the great news is that the rewards are never-ending. You get to spend the rest of your days with your very best friend – learning, laughing and growing through life together.

Always keep dating, be it at the occasional fancy restaurant or pizza on the living room floor. Never stop learning. Ask each other questions and take advantage of long car trips to recount silly stories. Hold one another accountable to greatness – root each other on as you explore new careers, hobbies and passions. Be present in the moment, put down your cellphone and enjoy the adventure right in front of you.

And remember you are not perfect. The good news? Neither is your spouse. Don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry,’ to forgive without ceasing, and to say “I love you” every chance you get.

Keep up with Kristin:
Blog: Southern Weddings
Instagram: @kn_winchester
Twitter: @kn_winchester
Pinterest: @knwinchester

All photos by Julia Wade, who is a delightful member of our Blue Ribbon Vendor Directory!

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Marilisa reply

    What a fun feature! I so enjoyed the “To Love and To Cherish” and “All the Days of My Life” features in V6. This is one of the many reasons why I respect your team so much – encouraging women, brides, fiancés, girlfriends, etc to see that marriage takes work, but that you’re not alone in it! I will love checking in on Sundays for these :)

  2. avatar Emily reply

    Love these sweet photos of you guys! Good job, Julia!!

  3. avatar Melissa reply

    Excited to hear that! Loved that section of V6, one of my favorite parts!

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Pack your bags! We’re going on vacation!!

Well, not actually — at least not together — but admit it. The idea of dashing off to a dreamy destination makes your heart beat a little bit faster, doesn’t it?

This hint is pretty easy to put into action. Hop on a plane, gas up the car or close the blinds and declare your very own staycation. Regardless of your method of transportation or ultimate destination, Hint #7 dives into why it is so important to “Get Away.”

Getting away is not easy, but lawd have mercy, it’s important. There are few things that are better for my soul than a few days away with Kyle. I like to call this hint the “secret sauce to my sassy marriage.” :)

Keep in mind that planning is important for this hint, but not required. We try to proactively build in time to Get Away when we’re setting our calendars and budget for the year, but definitely count on an occasional impromptu weekend away, too.

Kyle and I try to plan a weekend away at least four times a year, but we are by no means world travelers. For us, getting away sometimes means a weekend to visit family. Other times, it’s a long weekend away at the beach. And yes, we do save our pennies to take adventures that require planes, because we strongly believe in being purposeful and making memories. How else would I be able to touch the Eiffel Tower after years of practicing my French accent and dreaming of crepes? I’ve read studies that have shown that the greatest joy from taking a trip actually comes when you’re planning for it — which is great, because it means the effects of travel and new experiences expand far beyond just the few days you have off work!

While planning isn’t required, I do think that there is one important ground rule: you must be intentional about the away part. If you spend the weekend at home on a staycation, you must pretend like you are on vacation –– be adventurous, sleep in, watch movies all day – do whatever “vacation” means for you. If you visit family, make sure you fill your time with things that rejuvenate you. Put some of those past hints in action: laugh out loud, put down your cellphone, go on a date. The WHOLE point of this hint is to recharge your batteries and to take time AWAY from the daily grind.

The good news? When you’re refreshed, you’re energized and prepared to tackle the everyday battles. Getting away also lets you spend some quality time with the one that makes your heart beat a little faster. It is a purposeful and heartfelt investment into your marriage. It’s hard to not catch yourself smiling when you think about the last getaway you took with your beau, right? See, this really is the secret sauce to a strong marriage.

Where are your favorite places to get away? How are you deliberate about getting away? Share your travel secrets below. Let’s make 2014 the year we all “Get Away!”

This lovely engagement session is by Jen Dillender! See the whole thing on Facebook!

kristin Written with love by Kristin
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  1. avatar Emily reply

    Living in North Carolina, John and I like to get away to both the mountains and the beach. We’ve had a tradition for the last four years of spending a weekend in Asheville in the fall, and we try to go to the coast, even if just for the day, at least once a summer. Charleston is always a favorite long weekend destination, but it’s a bit farther away and requires a bit more planning. I could not agree with you more about the importance of mini adventures and overnights — definitely something I consider very important for keeping our marriage strong and happy!!

  2. avatar Lara reply

    Oh I love this! At this new point in our lives with a toddler, we have found that even just getting in the car with her and talking a drive to see te fall leaves while she naps in the back makes us feel like we got away. Time for just the two of us by ourselves rarely happens, so getting away in small ways is a priority and always makes us feel more refreshed. Love this post!

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