Hello, belles! Happy to see you on a Sunday! :) Those of you who picked up a copy of Southern Weddings V6 surely saw our two marriage advice features, “To Love and To Cherish” and “All the Days of My Life.” From your feedback, we know they’ve been some of the most popular! Over the next several weeks, we’re going to be highlighting and expanding on the nuggets of wisdom we shared in print from some of the smartest and most insightful married gals (and guys!) we know. From folks married less than a year to couples married 40+ years, they all have wonderful thoughts to share. We’re kicking off this series with advice from our very own Kristin Winchester — we hope you enjoy!
Inherently a good marriage starts LONG before you say I do. It starts with being patient, trusting God and actively seeking the right person to share in the adventures of marriage. Of course, this same patience, trust and effort must follow you for a successful marriage to become a reality. Marriage is magical, but it is foolish to think that good marriage just happens. It takes hard work and dedication; the great news is that the rewards are never-ending. You get to spend the rest of your days with your very best friend – learning, laughing and growing through life together.
Always keep dating, be it at the occasional fancy restaurant or pizza on the living room floor. Never stop learning. Ask each other questions and take advantage of long car trips to recount silly stories. Hold one another accountable to greatness – root each other on as you explore new careers, hobbies and passions. Be present in the moment, put down your cellphone and enjoy the adventure right in front of you.
And remember you are not perfect. The good news? Neither is your spouse. Don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry,’ to forgive without ceasing, and to say “I love you” every chance you get.