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If the outside of Bonnie and Armon’s house looks like an “after” from Fixer Upper, you’re not too far off: no, Chip and Jo haven’t lent a helping hand, but B + A do live in Waco, and I think there just might be some decorating fairy dust in the water! Bonnie and Armon have spent many hours on their bungalow, crafting a space that’s just right for their current lifestyle, and it shows. Come take a peek!

Bigs hugs to Rachel Whyte for these photographs! (And don’t miss Rachel’s own home tour, as actually seen on Fixer Upper!)

P.S. Fun fact: Bonnie appeared as a bridesmaid model in one of our Volume 6 editorials! See if you can spot her here :)

The couple: Bonnie (25) and Armon (26)
Years married: Four
Where you live: Waco, Texas
Tell us a little bit about yourselves. Armon is a full-time student finishing a degree in International Studies at Baylor University after serving four years in the Air Force. I’m the owner of b is for bonnie design, where I partner with creative entrepreneurs to bring their brand stories to life through heartfelt design and strategy, as well as the founder of the Illume Retreat. When we’re not in class or hard at work, we love to romp around in the great outdoors with our rambunctious one-year-old golden retriever, Boone, or you can find us in the kitchen attempting a new recipe. We’re almost fanatical in our love of Tex-Mex, and love any excuse to host a taco-inspired soirée in our home.

Tell us your love story in one sentence. Best friends turned college sweethearts who fall hopelessly in love and weather years of long distance dating before getting hitched and exploring the world together!
What is your favorite part of being married? We are crazy about the fact that we get to walk through life together as a team. At the risk of sounding cliché, we strive to bring out the best in one another in all seasons. Armon challenges me to let go of my Type A ways and I help ground his big ideas with a more honed sense of focus. Together, we feel unstoppable!

Do you rent or own? Tell us a little bit about where you live. We own our sweet little slice of heaven here in Waco! Our home was built in the 1940s, and for all its quirks, it has so much character that we adore. Armon and I met, built a friendship, and fell in love in Waco. Our story truly started here, and to be able to spend this next chapter in a city we love so much is a true joy.
Tell us about the process of moving in together. Prior to our wedding, Armon was living in military housing on base all the way out in California. When we moved in together, I brought what little furniture I had from college, which was mostly vintage pieces, to our little apartment. We quickly furnished the space with finds from Target and IKEA, and over the years, we’ve been thoughtfully replacing those budget-friendly items with pieces that will stand the test of time. My style is bright and full of light and feminine details, while Armon would like everything to be made out of wood, preferably in a dark stain. Blending our two styles took a lot of experimentation, a lot of discussion, and some big compromises on his part. In the end, we’ve focused on filling out our home with neutral hues, cozy textures, and an intentional mix of masculine and feminine details.

What most makes your house feel like home? I think the art throughout each room adds that personal touch that brings it all together. Armon and I like to collect a piece of art whenever we travel to new places, so the prints, paintings, and ceramics throughout our home carry special memories and fun anecdotes. Some pieces were budget finds and others were more of a splurge, but each one is special in its own way and adds so much warmth and personality to every room.
Who cooks dinner? I usually do, but over this past summer, Armon has really stepped into that role to help me out while I prepped for an online course launch. Regardless of who the chef of the day is, we like both be in the kitchen at the same time, helping each other prep and clean while catching up on our days.
What is your go-to weeknight meal? Weekend meal? We’re big Tex-Mex fans in this house! Tacos with homemade chips and salsa are a go-to weeknight meal for us. I’m a vegetarian and Armon isn’t, and tacos are easily customizable to fit both of our dietary preferences.

What’s your best tip for balancing your relationship and other life priorities? Strong boundaries that separate your work, outside commitments, or school load from the time spent with your spouse make all the difference! As a creative entrepreneur who works from a home studio, I don’t have the option to physically leave work each night to come home for dinner. Instead, we’ve worked hard to thoughtfully create a system of boundaries with clients, my office hours, and even my business’ social media accounts so we can be fully present when we’re together. As Armon has gone back to school, we’ve applied a similar approach to his class work so we can purposefully spend meals and evenings together for good conversation and much-needed quality time!

Do you have a favorite date night idea to share? When the intensity of Texas summers starts to wane a bit, we love to visit our favorite vantage point in Cameron Park, Waco’s beautiful municipal green space. Here, we can perch on top of a limestone cliff and look over the Brazos River and the surrounding valley, soak up the sunset, and chat openly about how we can love one another better in the week ahead. In the thick of summer when being outdoors at any hour isn’t too fun, we opt to grab appetizers and drinks at our favorite restaurant during happy hour, where we can chat, people watch, and fill up on our favorite eats.

This year, our family is most excited about… continuing to turn our house into our dream home! We’re currently furnishing our patio space to turn it into an outdoor haven, and are adding a few finishing touches throughout the interior, too.

Thank you so much for sharing your hearts and home with us, Bonnie and Armon!

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Like most 20 and 30 somethings in America today, the Southern Weddings gals are big fans of Mrs. Joanna Gaines and HGTV’s Fixer Upper. BIG fans. So when we got the chance to interview one of the sweetest couples from Season 3 (the owners of one of my all-time favorite exterior transformations!), there may have been some squeals and a little happy dance done in the SW office. Luke and Rachel Whyte were kind enough to share some Fixer Upper secrets in addition to their newlywed advice, and as diehard fans, we all loved comparing what their house looked like done-up for the show and after a few months of loving and living.

If, like us, you’ve always wondered what goes on while the Fixer Upper cameras are rolling (and after they’ve packed up!), this post is for you!

The couple: Rachel (27) and Luke (27) Whyte
Years married: 3.5
The littles: Haven (22 months) and James (3 months)
Where you live: Waco, TX
Tell us a little bit about yourselves. We moved to Waco nine years ago to attend Baylor University. We got married the year after we graduated, and have been here since! When we decided to stay in Waco, we did it for a very specific reason: we wanted to invest in the city. We knew that Waco was growing and that if we were to stay, we would get to watch it undergo a major transformation. This was one year before the Fixer Upper phenomenon began, so as you can see, we were right! And we most definitely made the right decision. Luke is a young adult pastor and I am a wedding photographer. I’ve also had the privilege to work as a photographer for Magnolia and for Fixer Upper. We have two little babies under the age of two. Life in ministry, owning a business, and having a toddler and newborn isn’t easy, but we wouldn’t trade it for anything!

Tell us your love story in one sentence. We are two broken people who, because of God’s grace, have been redeemed so that we can tell His story of redemption.
What has been the most surprising thing about marriage? It’s amazing to watch your life change and family grow, and at the same time, still feel like those two crazy college kids who first fell in love. Sometime we look at each other and say, “How are we parents? How do we live here??” It’s all so surreal. Life moves so fast. And it’s a lot easier to become friends and teammates than I would have thought before getting married.
Tell us a little bit about where you live. We live in Woodway, which is essentially a suburb of Waco, in our own home. We live very close to Lake Waco and we love to go on walks and experience nature there.

Tell us about the process of moving in together. When we first moved in together after we got married, I recycled most of my old college decorations. Now living in this house, we kind of started from scratch. It’s been fun to blend our styles. When we sat down with Joanna for our design meeting, we both stated our biggest preferences. Luke wanted to incorporate Colorado and the mountains, and I wanted a big, bright kitchen. We got both of those things and more. Joanna did an amazing job combining our styles and we couldn’t be happier with our home!
Where did you live while your home was being renovated for Fixer Upper? While our home was being renovated, we decided to live as nomads rather than finding semi-permanent housing. We stayed with various friends and acquaintances and were astounded at the hospitality we encountered. We also traveled quite a bit since it was the summer. We stayed in 17 different beds total during the 11 weeks. We did not peek at all during our renovation process. Luke loves surprises and I agreed to stay away so that we could be surprised together.

What happens after “reveal day”? Do you keep all of the furniture and decor? On reveal day you meet Chip and Jo at a location near your house. You get all mic-ed up and then they drive you to the house. You close your eyes and Chip and Jo lead you to the canvas, and they pull it back to show you your new home! It really is like what you see on TV. We kept some decor but not any furniture, as we had our own. There is a separate budget to buy the furniture and things used to stage your home, but I would expect that most people have their own furniture already.

Did Magnolia renovate your entire house? What about rooms we didn’t see on the show? There were two rooms and two bathrooms that were not renovated for the show. We did them ourselves after moving in, which I don’t recommend. In hindsight I wish we would have included that in our budget so that Magnolia could have done the renovation for us.
Which room in your home is your favorite, and why? I personally really love our kitchen. I also love our master bath, but haven’t gotten to spend as much time in there since having two babies! We just recently finished the Whole30 diet, so I spent a lot of time cooking creative meals. It’s such a blessing to have a large kitchen!

Which items from your wedding registry do you use the most often? We use our knives most often. Like I said, I’ve been cooking three meals a day for a month, so I’ve been getting really good use out of them!
What different decisions, if any, would you make for your registry if you knew then what you know now? I would get fewer serving and entertaining pieces. You only have so many parties and host so many showers!

What most makes your house feel like home? Being a photographer you might expect this, but I have a ton of photos up around our house, and they really make it feel like home. I love adding more as we have more kids and move through new stages of life.
Where do you splurge and where do you save when decorating? I try to buy quality, and buy once. I’m not a big bargain shopper, although I wish I was!

What is your favorite part of being married? I love getting to do life with my best friend.
What’s your best tip for balancing your relationship and other life priorities? We have defined boundaries and we stick to them. We also communicate when things feel off and are willing to adjust accordingly.

How does your family handle finances? We have a set budget, but we both seem to make incidental purchases quite often, so we have a big “miscellaneous” section in it.
What is one small way you love or serve your spouse? We send each other encouraging texts sharing things we’re thankful for about each other.

Do you have children? We have two kids, Haven and James. We hope to have one or two more, and adopt as well. Our biggest desire for them is that they would grow to love Jesus and give their lives to serve Him.

Before getting married, I wish someone had told me… that if you submit yourself to the process of being refined and sharpened by your spouse, you will slowly but surely start to grow in the same direction. It’s dying to yourself. In the moment it is painful, but long term you see the life and beauty it brings.

Big hugs to Rachel and Luke for sharing, and to Sarah Best for the Whyte family photos! Keep up with Rachel on her website and blog and Instagram! And if y’all have questions about the light fixtures, paint colors, or materials used, feel free to leave them in the comments and we’ll do our best to answer them!

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  1. avatar Meredith reply

    LOOOOOVE!! So fun having them interviewed! Love their beautiful home!

  2. avatar Michelle reply

    Love this post!! Question- where are the kitchen stools from? I know it’s not about paint or light fixtures but I thought I’d try and see if y’all knew!

  3. avatar Kate reply

    What brand is the real couch?

  4. avatar Dulcey reply

    What paint colors were used in the craft area and master bedroom?

    • avatar Emily reply

      Hi Dulcey! I’m pretty sure the color in both the office/craft room and the master bedroom is “Agreeable Gray” from Sherwin Williams!

    • avatar Heather reply

      Do you happen to know if that is the same color that was used in the other living areas of the house? I was wondering about the paint color in the living room and above the wainscotting around the stairs.

    • avatar admin reply

      Hi Heather! We are pretty sure the living room is also “Agreeable Gray” by Sherwin Williams, but Rachel also mentioned “Anew Gray.” Hope this helps!

  5. avatar Tomasz Kornas reply

    That house is amazing!

  6. avatar Naomi Stinebaugh reply

    Love this remodel! Do you happen to know which colors were used for the exterior paint and trim?

    • avatar admin reply

      Hi Naomi! We are not sure about the trim, but the exterior paint color is “Alabaster White!”

  7. avatar Heather Carone reply

    Please please please tell me the name/brand of the hard wook floors! I’m picking mine out now…and these are it! Gorgeous!

    • avatar admin reply

      Hey Heather! The floors are laminate planks in Parisian Maple and Eiffel Maple! Good luck picking yours out!

  8. avatar Nichole reply

    Love the cabinets! What is the color used for them?

  9. avatar Jessica reply

    So so beautiful! I’m especially wondering if you remember the name or brand of backsplash! And grout color :) That would be so helpful. Thank you!

  10. avatar McCall reply

    Where is your dining table from??

    • avatar admin reply

      Hey McCall! The dining room table was made by Rachel’s friend, Clint Brooks (@clint.brooks), out of reclaimed wood!

  11. avatar Raquel reply

    I love the hardware on the kitchen cabinets and am looking for similar ones. Where are they from?

    • avatar admin reply

      Hey Raquel! The kitchen hardware is from Lewis Dolin 3 inch Round Bar Pulls in Brushed Brass!

  12. avatar Meaghan White reply

    I was also wondering where your dining table is from. Beautiful home! The exterior is AMAZING!

    • avatar admin reply

      Hey Meaghan, thanks for reading! The table was made by Clint Brooks!

    • avatar Tiffany Ross reply

      Can you tell me what stain color was used on your farmhouse table in the kitchen? Currently testing stain options for our kitchen right now and I love that color. Beautiful!

  13. avatar Ali reply

    I’m moving into a new place and recently scored a beautiful farm table (that needs some TLC) – I love the table with the more industrial chairs. Do you have a source for those wonderful metal beauties? Thanks!

  14. avatar Amanda reply

    The small rug in the kitchen! Where’s that from?
    Basically I want this whole house to somehow be inside my house. This is gorgeous .

  15. avatar Katy Keesen reply

    Thank you so much for sharing. May God continue to bless the Whyte’s as a family and in their minds is try. Their house is beautiful. What is the color used on the kitchen cabinets?

  16. avatar Jamie reply

    Hello!! Wondering where the chandelier is from???? ?

    • avatar admin reply

      Hi Jamie! The dining room chandelier is from Pottery Barn, and the kitchen and bedroom lighting is from Magnolia Market!

  17. avatar May reply

    What color is the kitchen and the kids room

  18. avatar Kathay Lovell reply

    Love your photos and decor. What is the dimension of your farm style dining room table. I see it seats 10 comfortably.

  19. avatar Karly Leib reply

    Where is that dining room chandelier from? I am killing myself trying to find the perfect light to go above our farmhouse table. This looks just right!

    • avatar admin reply

      Hi Karly! The dining room chandelier is from Pottery Barn! Good luck picking yours!

  20. avatar Jessica Lizardi reply

    I was wondering if you can tell me the color of the shutters. Thank you so much

    • avatar admin reply

      Hey Jessica! The shutters are a custom Sherwin Williams color to match the metal roof! It’s in the Sherwin Williams system as “Whyte Shutter Match.”

  21. avatar Ingrid hoover reply

    I was wondering about their fabulous front door. Do you know who the mfg is? Thank you!

  22. avatar Rose Tai reply

    Is the dining room area paint color agreeable gray as well?

  23. avatar Christina White reply

    Love your home! It’s beautiful! I picked agreeable gray for my home as well…. such a nice clean color! I want to order the dining room chandelier

  24. avatar ruthann reply

    where is that awesome comforter cover from? The one in the infant room that is on the daybed?

  25. avatar RUthann reply

    I am also looking for where to find that shelf above the bathtub in the master? Thanks.

  26. avatar Kendra Grady reply

    where can I buy the light fixture that is above the kitchen table? I am in love with it and I would love to put it in my new house.

  27. avatar leigh bravo reply

    please advise where you got the chandelier over your dining room table next to kitchen.

  28. avatar Keri Koncak reply

    Hi, I was wondering if you could provide the source of the tile backsplash? Thank you so much. What a beautiful home!

  29. avatar Kim Graley reply

    your home is beautiful. would you mind sharing what paint color is on the walls?

  30. avatar Kathy Thomas reply

    Where did you purchase your glass hanging shelf in the bathroom.
    Moving to the beach in a small house trying to make the most of it. No more driving.
    I need to open up the bathroom.

  31. avatar melissa reply

    Hello I wanted to know what color is the island in the kitchen it looks like a greenish color. Thank you beautiful home Happy Holidays :)

  32. avatar Judy reply

    Your home is beautiful but I would like to know how the marble countertops are holding up. I hear and read so many negative comments on installing them in the kitchen but see that Joanna uses them many times. I would love to have them I my kitchen. What are your thought now that you have lived with them for some time please? Thanks

  33. avatar Betsy reply

    Such a beautiful home and story! I would love to know the cabinet paint color!

  34. avatar Susan reply

    Could you tell me where the set of 6 nature prints and frames in the dining area are from? I would love to put those in my dining room! Thanks!

  35. avatar Jen reply

    Do you know the source of the tile backsplash? Is it white glass tile? Are the dimensions 3″x12″? Thanks.

  36. avatar linda perry reply

    Love this blog!! I know you said the kitchen cabinets were painted argos.. do you know what the paint color of the kitchen island is?? i’ve been dying to find out as I would like to paint my island that color. It looks like a really pretty grey/blue/green ish! Thank you!!

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  38. avatar Brittney reply

    Does anyone know where the table and chairs can be purchased??

  39. avatar Kelly reply

    Hi, I’m in love with the botanical art frames. Where can I buy them?

  40. avatar Kirsten reply

    Kind of a silly question but do you know the size of rug under the kids play table?

  41. avatar Meghan McGlothin reply

    I am doing the exterior of my house like this hat color are the shingles on the roof thanks!!

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  43. avatar Amanda Ledoux reply

    Hi! I saw you had posted the exterior color is alabaster, but do you happen to know the shutter colors?! Thanks!

  44. avatar Shana reply

    I love th. It looks similar throughout the whole house. What color is it?

  45. avatar Bruno Rosa reply

    I love every single image of this post.

    The house is incredible awesome!

  46. avatar Lacey reply

    I would love to know where your kitchen cabinets are from atleast the company that made them.

    Thank you!

  47. avatar Karen Hewett reply

    Is the paint color agreeable grey or mindful grey? Which rooms are painted that color? Does it still work for you?

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Two of the loveliest people I’ve ever met are Cary and Ryan Ray. Ryan photographed my wedding (!), and when Dave and I headed to Texas for our engagement pictures, we finally got to meet Ryan and Cary in person for the first time. Individually, they’re each so thoughtful and incredibly talented, but when they’re together, the joy and energy they find in their relationship is palpable. After Instagram-stalking the progress on their Dallas fixer upper for a while, Emily and I were so delighted when they agreed to give us a tour on Southern Newlywed. My favorite thing about it? It’s just as inviting as the people who live inside. Let’s take a look!

The couple: Cary (28) and Ryan (29) Ray
Years married: 6.5
Where you live: Dallas, Texas
Tell us a little bit about yourselves. Ryan was a surfer boy from California with an unordinary childhood. We met at church in Texas (our story is pretty funny/crazy) and married a year later. He has been a photographer for seven years and is incredibly passionate about photography, working with couples, and weddings. He LOVES to cook (which really worked out for me because I unfortunately do not), and I think he would like to pursue hip-hop dancing at some point… I grew up in a small town in west Texas and moved to the Dallas area to attend college for news anchoring. I’d always loved decorating, but my passion for it didn’t happen until after I was married and we had our own home. I love decorating, design, eating what Ryan cooks, and spending time with friends and family. I’m also a new online shop owner, and that has been incredibly fun!

Tell us your love story in one sentence. We saw each other at church and he came to say hello and I offered my phone number and we had our first date at Starbucks and I told him I was going to marry him two months later and he said okay and then he proposed a year later and we’ve been crazy about each other since. (That wasn’t a run-on sentence or anything…)
What is your favorite part of being married? I think my favorite part is knowing and loving another person so much and feeling safe with them. We know each other’s quirks, how to push each other’s buttons, how to make the other person laugh, and how to encourage and push each other. We go to each other all the time for opinions on life, work, and projects. Being loved for all of your weirdness and feeling safe with who you really are is such an amazing part of being married. We will always have each other’s back and be best friends.
What has been the most surprising thing about marriage? You obviously learn a lot about the other person, but the really surprising part is how much you learn about yourself. It can expose a lot of not-so-pretty parts you weren’t even aware of. But, in the not-so-fun things that marriage can reveal about yourself, it’s amazing that it can show you what needs to be changed for the good. It’s an opportunity to give and receive grace, love another person deeply and well, and be challenged every single day.

Do you rent or own? What are your hopes and plans for the future in this area? Tell us a little bit about where you live. We own our Texas home. It was built in 1999 and was a real fixer upper when we moved in. It was dark, yellow, and there were just so many seashell fixtures and hardware. We’ve worked on it for the past four years and really love how it’s turned out. It’s not perfect, but it’s home. Our hopes and plans are always changing and evolving. It’s much like a canvas to me, and I just love how our home evolves as I evolve in what I like and am inspired by.
Which room in your home is your favorite, and why? The office area downstairs off of our dining area. It was truly an eyesore and such an odd room when we moved in. It had two pairs of french doors from two different rooms, a giant window looking into it, and was screened in on the other exterior side. It was topped off with aggregate floors and a water fountain. We were super confused about it, but it has made for one of our favorite rooms in the house because we were able to start over and bring it back to life!

Tell us about the process of moving in together. Do you have any tips for blending your two styles? We had a lot of hand-me-down furniture and an excessive amount of fake plants when we got married and moved in together. We didn’t have a lot of extra money to lend to new things, so we made what we had work. We tossed the things we really didn’t like and compromised for the things each of us did. Over the years, we’ve grown into our own and learned what we really love and appreciate, so it has been fun blending our own styles into one: both the masculine and the feminine, the newer and the older, and all different shapes, textures, and colors. Blending styles makes for so much interest and allows both of us to feel at home.
What most makes your house feel like home? All of the personal touches. I love vintage art, antique pieces, throw blankets, and books. I really feel that the things you can’t just buy at a chain store are what makes spaces look personal and layered. They offer history and personality. I love to think about the stories my vintage pieces have and who they might have belonged to.

Where do you splurge and where do you save when decorating? What are some of your favorite sources for home things? We have splurged on our main pieces of furniture that we use all the time, and a few other special pieces here and there. We have utilized Craigslist, eBay, flea markets, estate sales, and outlets to fill it all in. It is amazing what people throw and give away!

What is your favorite memory from your wedding? Coming from a small town, you almost always have a large wedding in your church or close by. There is so much beauty in tradition, but we opted to get married in Mexico instead. The swine flu was on the up and up, but about 30 of us jumped on airplanes and flew on over to a resort. We have never regretted it, and it couldn’t have been more fun!! My favorite part was probably our first look. We met on this beautiful bridge with tons of trees around us. One of my most favorite photographs is of Ryan wiping a tear away from my eyes in that moment. We had been through so much at that point and it was very special to have a private moment alone before saying our vows. That, and the crazy dancing at the reception. :)
Which items from your wedding registry do you use the most often? Our dishes. A friend of mine told me I needed to get good white dishes and that I wouldn’t regret it. I didn’t love white dishes at the time, but I took her advice and we still use them every single day. Classic options like that are timeless.

What’s your best tip for balancing your relationship and other life priorities (work, personal time, extended family, etc.)? We have a goal to stop working at certain times and to not use our phones at dinner. We always spend time together in the evenings. We aren’t perfect, but we do strive to always prioritize each other.
Do you have a favorite date night idea to share? We love dinner and movies. This sounds very vanilla, but we really enjoy it! We often set date nights just to end up staying home together. From time to time, we really enjoy afternoon dates at a new restaurant, or a drive looking at homes in the country.
What is one small way you love or serve your spouse? When we got married, we read “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Ryan really feels loved by acts of service, and I feel loved by quality time and words of affirmation. So basically, I keep the dust bunnies out of the house and he gives me back rubs and tells me what a great job I did. :)

Do you have children? What are your hopes and plans for the future in this area? We are adopting a little boy from Taiwan. His name is River! We have been praying for children for six years now, and God has answered our prayers through adoption! We have a story that has a lot of struggle, but so much grace from the Lord in every part. He always has the big picture and He’s always there in the deepest part of our struggles, even when it doesn’t feel that way.
Before getting married, I wish someone had told me… That it gets better and better with time. We really struggled the first few years of marriage. When two imperfect, stubborn beings come under one roof, there’s bound to be issues. Not everyone struggles in their first years, but we sure did. It’s just a part of our story that we are always okay with sharing. When we both grasped that we were never going to be able to change the other person, and rather, focused on our own hearts and sin, that’s when I really feel we started progressing. It takes work!! But it’s always always worth it.

Is there anything else about your home or family life that you think our readers would be interested in? There’s so much beauty in imperfection and even the most mundane parts of life. We have Instagram and Facebook and all these social media outlets to show our projects or what we’re up to. That’s all great, but I think it’s important for people to know that those things are just not what life is about. There are so many days when doing laundry, cooking, running errands, and cleaning seem to take up so much of our time, but what I’ve learned so much in marriage is that it’s not really about the things we’re doing, it’s how we treat each other and love one another while doing them. That’s what really counts.

Thank you so much to Cary and Ryan for sharing their hearts and home with us! Follow along with them here:

Cary’s shop | Cary’s Instagram | Ryan’s website | Ryan’s blog | Ryan’s Instagram

Photography: Ryan Ray

lisa Written with love by Lisa
  1. avatar Jessica reply

    LOVE this so much! Such a gorgeous home.

  2. avatar Emily reply

    Beautiful home and and beautiful interview!!

  3. avatar Laura reply

    Love their marriage advice and honesty! Great feature.

  4. avatar Draia reply

    Aww, what a beautiful and honest couple! They also have a great taste for interior :) I love how they answered the questions. Thumbs up for the imperfections !

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    Hi Cary and Ryan! I love the photo with the 9 white frames on the navy wall. I’m especially in love with that adorable little wood table and beautiful glass lamp! I have been on the hunt for a lamp like this ever since I saw your photo. Would you mind sharing where the table and lamp are from? Thanks!!

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