One of the most fun questions we asked the sweet couples married for 25+ years who contributed advice to V6 was “What’s your best memory related to Southern food or family?” Kathy and Tom’s answer was an office favorite–any marriage that starts with a wonderful example to follow and a big slice of the family’s coconut cake sounds like a recipe for success!
Katherine Miles Jones
What was your wedding date? August 9, 1975
Children? Two children and two grandchildren
When did you know he/she was “the one”? Kathy: I was only 18 years old and I was visiting Tom’s grandparents with his family. I had this feeling that I not only belonged with Tom, but I belonged with this wonderful family as well. Tom: When my Camaro wouldn’t go anywhere else but to Kathy’s house.
What is your favorite memory from your wedding? Tom: Seeing Kathy walk into the church with her daddy. Kathy: I was so nervous that I couldn’t seem to get the wedding ring on Tom’s finger. Turns out that I was trying to put it on his right hand. During the prayer, Tom calmly slipped it onto his left ring finger.
What’s the secret to your marriage? To support each other’s individual interests and to be happy for the time they spend enjoying them. Tom loves to golf and he loves aviation; I love needlepointing and book club. It’s important to foster the personal interests that make someone who he/she is.
What is your favorite thing to do together? Our ancestry is Scottish and we love traveling to Scotland together. Every minute spent there is fun, magical, and memorable. It feels like home.
What is your best memory related to Southern food or family? Out best Southern food memories involve family gatherings–Thanksgiving, Christmas, family reunions–where there is always a multitude of Southern desserts. Ma’s chocolate pie graced the table at every family reunion. Grandmother’s Christmas morning coffee cake signaled that the holidays were here. And our family recipe (dating back many generations!) for fresh coconut cake was used for our daughter’s wedding cake in 2011. It was a joy for that specific food memory to be woven into her wedding.