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Two years ago, my husband and I moved from a two-bedroom apartment to a four-bedroom house. Even four years post-college, we had only acquired a few pieces of furniture: a sofa, a dining room table, a mattress (but not a headboard!), four hand-me-down chairs, and an Ikea loveseat I’d had since college. Needless to say, we were ready to make some purchases! Furniture, however, is expensive, and we are nothing if not frugal. Very quickly, Craigslist loomed large in our calculations. Since then, I’ve made many purchases on The List. While overwhelming at first, the deals are simply too good to pass up for those looking to feather a newlywed nest on a budget. Today I’m sharing my best tips for searching and buying on Craigslist, and I’d love to hear yours in the comments!

Photo from Erin + Ben’s home

TIPS FOR SEARCHING:

Have a clear idea what you’re looking for. Unlike browsing the aisles at a flea market, simply scrolling around on Craigslist can get very overwhelming very quickly. If you have an infinite amount of time, feel free to simply search for “table,” but your search will be more efficient if you’ve already narrowed in on the look you’re going for and use those terms (“white tulip table” or “farmhouse table”).

If you want to go one level deeper, make sure you’re nosing all around exactly what you’re looking for. Search using a slew of similar terms, because you never know how a seller might describe the item you want!

Be patient. You will quickly get frustrated if you expect to log on and find exactly what you’re looking for after one night of searching. The gems are rare on Craigslist, and they go fast! If you’re looking for something specific, check back frequently over a few days or weeks, searching the same terms over and over (new things get added all the time!). And if you’re really serious, know that some people search for 1-2 hours per night!

Search pic view. Click the button to show thumbnail images next to each listing in a list of results. That way, you can skim quickly over options and avoid opening thirty tabs for obviously wrong items.

Photo from Abby + Alex’s home by A Bryan Photo

TIPS FOR BUYING:

Move fast. If you see something you like, don’t delay: reach out with an email ASAP! However, if you do happen to see something that catches your eye further back in the results, don’t hesitate to reach out – it could have already sold, but it’s just as likely you’ve spotted a diamond in the rough others scrolled right on by. One man’s trash and all that :)

Start simple. I think this is by far the tip that has been most helpful to me. When you find something you like, make your first email simple. Try to sound put together (good grammar!), friendly, ready and willing, and low maintenance. Most sellers just want the process to be easy! I’ll usually start by simply asking if the item is still available, and I’ll offer to come by that day with cash.

Ask questions and negotiate. If they respond that the item is available and I have follow up questions, I’ll ask them then. I try to be specific instead of just asking for “more information.” (Is it a non-smoking home? Exact dimensions? Is the color accurate?) This is also the point where you can negotiate. (“Would you take $85 instead of $100?) Do any negotiating before you show up – it’s just rude to agree on a price then show up with less cash in hand. The only exception would be if the item is in a significantly different condition than it appeared in photos when you see it in person.

Photo from Samantha + Kevin’s home

Take renovation costs into account. If you’re considering a piece that needs some work and the budget is a concern, factor in extra costs as you compare the total price to buying new. Maybe you’d want to lacquer that side chair, or reupholster (or simply clean) a sofa. Your time is also a cost – how long will it take you to strip, sand, and paint a side table? Do you already have a powder sander or will you have to buy one?

Think about how you’ll get it home. Don’t assume the seller will be able to help you move the piece into your car. Take the measurements into account, too! Even though we have a small SUV, we rented a Home Depot truck to bring home a large sideboard once. The truck rental cost about $50, but even adding that cost to the cost of the piece was less than we would have paid new.

Stay safe. Whenever I pick something up, I always make sure John is with me. I also specifically tell the seller my husband will be accompanying me in our email communication. And, I try to always go during daylight hours. All of the people I have worked with on Craigslist have been very sweet, but in this case, it is definitely better to be safe than sorry, friends!

Photo from Shalyn + Drew’s home

I’d love to hear: are you a Craigslist maven? Do you have any tips to add, or have any of these tips been helpful for you? What’s your best Craigslist find? Mine was definitely a beautiful solid wood Jenny Lind twin bed for $100!

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One thing I love about life beneath the Mason-Dixon Line is how supportive Southerners are of military families. Growing up in one myself, I know military life presents its own unique, but extraordinary, set of experiences–and sometimes challenges. A period of deployment is one of them. We’re thrilled to have one of our readers, Suiter, here today sharing the tips that helped her get through her husband’s six-month deployment on a Navy submarine. Even if you will never experience her exact situation, we think her tips are relevant for anyone with a spouse who travels for work or perhaps simply works long hours at a demanding job. Take it away, Suiter!

1. Begin deployment with goals. Physically write these down and put them somewhere you can see them daily. I decided to set a goal to run my first half marathon. A friend and I signed up before deployment and spent many months training for this goal.

2. Celebrate even the smallest milestones. Sundays were always the toughest days for me. They are usually spent with my husband relaxing, going to church, and/or cleaning the house. So I made sure to celebrate each little milestone by creating a new countdown or celebrating with other wives.

3. Let the dog sleep in the bed. At first I was adamant about not letting this happen, but he became a constant companion during this time, and I was very grateful for him.

4. Don’t go to the grocery store on Saturday nights. One Saturday I geared up to go to the store… only to find myself surrounded by happy couples. I quickly decided morning shopping worked better for me.

5. Make plans. At least once a month I would go somewhere and do something. This would always give me something to look forward to, which I truly appreciated.

6. Communicate expectations. My husband and I talked about expectations prior to deployment. For example, we decided to email daily, but I was fully aware that when they were on mission I would not hear from him. We pre-wrote many love letters to feel connected. I opened a letter a week from him for 26 weeks!

7. Allow for technical difficulties and account for time changes. We tended to forget about time changes, meaning our communication plans did not always unfold exactly as expected. We learned to be patient with each other and mindful of our schedules.

8. Say yes. If a friend asks you to go to dinner, say yes. If someone suggests you come visit them, say yes. It was helpful for me to force myself to make plans instead of sulking.

Thank you so much, Suiter, for your family’s service and these great tips! Military gals, feel free to comment with any other helpful ideas that got you through a deployment!

All photos from Suiter and Ben’s Homecoming by Vanessa Hicks Photography

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Wedding Venues reply

    Great ideas ! thx for advice !

  2. avatar Emily reply

    While it is important to say yes and make plans so you’re not sulking, don’t feel pressured to literally always say yes. If you want to stay home and binge on Netflix, do it. Just don’t do it all the time. It’s important to make time for yourself!

  3. avatar Alyssa reply

    Great advice! I completely agree with every tip on this list, especially #1 and #8. It’s important to continue growing and improving yourself, use this time to meet personal goals. I’m learning calligraphy (something my fiancé isn’t too interested in!) and ALWAYS say yes to dinner plans with friends! I feel SO much better after dinner with girlfriends that offer encouragement and remind me of their support. #4 made me laugh, it’s happened to me before and I agree. Save the grocery shopping for early mornings ;) My fiancé is gone for the next year and I’m focusing on strengthening friendships and spending more time with my family before our wedding next year. Thanks Suiter for the reminders and for you and your husband’s service!

  4. avatar Stephanie reply

    These are all great tips! Patience is certainly key. As mentioned, having regular communication can become challenging with time differences and lack of access to Internet. Being patient during those times of inconsistency is important. When my husband is deployed I find it helpful to write him daily letters. Those letters allow him to still be part of what is going on back home. He gets to know even about the small details of my day, which we tend to forget 6 months later.

  5. avatar Candice reply

    I’m going through my first deployment as a spouse right now (after having grown up as an military brat) so I’m soaking up any and all hints haha.
    I find keeping busy to be key. Same with keeping up a routine, eg. Every Thursday I religiously head to the post office to send him a package.
    A big thing for us has been to make plans for his return. This was hard for me initially, as I lost my dad to a military accident, so changing my mindset enough to believe he will come home has been a challenge. However, planning holidays, concerts and (secretly) our wedding has kept us both positive, looking forward, & is a cheerful conversation starter to fall back on during phone calls.
    Another tip is to start writing a little list of jobs (that only he can do) about a month before he returns – this will help him to find his place back in the home a little easier.

    • avatar Emily reply

      Love all of these suggestions, Candice! Thank you so much for sharing, and for your family’s service!!

  6. avatar Lisa Harlow reply

    Love this post! My husband is due to return from his fifth deployment in just three weeks, I can’t wait! This deployment has been a bit more difficult as our little girls are old enough to understand that their Daddy is away. Many mamas do countdowns for their little ones but I don’t ours until about a month before his return so as not to overwhelm them. And I definitely let our little pup in the bed:)

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Almost as soon as we accepted Jordan and Dave’s wedding for a feature, Lisa was clamoring for a home tour. Knowing Jordan was an interior designer and seeing the impeccable style she deployed at her nuptials, we had a hunch we were in for a treat! Happily, we were right. Her and Dave’s Tampa condo is a colorful and eclectic blending of “his and her” style, without losing the distinctiveness of either one. And, even with just two months of marriage under their collective belt, these two have lots of wisdom to share!

Big hugs to Brittney Forrister (Jordan’s sister!) for the interior styling and Baxter Miller for the photos!

Photo by Kristin Sweeting

The couple: Jordan Forrister Winston (30) and David Sinclair Winston (30)
Years married: Almost 2 months
Where they live: Tampa, Florida
Tell us a little bit about yourselves. I grew up in the mountains of North Carolina and Dave grew up on the water in Tampa, so while we had very different childhoods geographically, we both grew up with an appreciation for being on the water (fresh or salt). I went to an ACC school, UNC, and he went to an SEC school, Auburn, so we travel around the Southeast quite a bit when fall hits. I’m an interior designer and Dave is project manager for a construction company, so we talk in blueprints! We both have an appreciation for what the other one does 9 to 5, and that makes a big difference.
Tell us your love story in one sentence. “Why are you dancing up there, when you could be dancing down here with me?” – Dave, the night we met at a popular Nashville honky-tonk.

What is your favorite part of being married? Dave and I dated long distance for two and half years, and it wasn’t until after we were engaged that we lived in the same city. It’s wonderful to come home to him each night and speak to him in person. I’m still learning all these amazing things about him and his everyday life!
What has been the most surprising thing about marriage? The amount of laundry! Doing laundry for two people is quite different and I feel like I can barely keep up. It did help justify purchasing a very cute laundry hamper, though!
What is your favorite memory from your wedding? Our favorite memory of our wedding was the loud clapping as we walked back up the aisle. It was almost deafening. The sound was assurance that we have so much support behind our marriage.
Tell us a little bit about where you live. When we decided to move to Tampa for Dave’s job, we knew we wanted to purchase a home. We had both rented places in our respective cities, and knew that Tampa would be a place where we could settle down for a few years, if not always. We knew we wanted to purchase a place we could call our own without breaking the bank, so we bought a small condo in South Tampa that needed to be completely gutted and renovated. For three months, we spent nights and weekends tearing down/adding/painting walls, installing new tile, and installing a new kitchen, all while planning our wedding.

Tell us about the process of moving in together. Since we both lived independently for several years, we had each accumulated lots of furniture and art. It was important to us that the condo reflected each of our personalities, which began the process of deciding what to keep and what to donate. Our gallery wall is an excellent example of that motivation. It is a blending of our personal art collections above a vintage record player (it still works!) that Dave found while thrifting, and is a great reminder of our separate lives coming together. Also, a sailfish, which Dave caught, hangs above our living room couch. As a mountain girl, I loved getting to do something different and fully embrace the coastal aspect of our new town. While we have blended many of our things together, our nightstands remain his and hers. It’s just another way of claiming your side of the bed!

Which room in your home is your favorite, and why? Our favorite room in the house is the kitchen. It was the room we completely renovated, and we poured so much sweat equity into reconfiguring the space and installing new cabinets. All the hard work makes me appreciate it even more, and it is so rewarding to see the beautiful space finished. I especially love how our tiled floor-to-ceiling wall turned out.
Which items from your wedding registry do you use the most often? We use our new Keurig every day. I am most excited, however, about our custom pottery dishes by Handmade Studio in Nashville. They are so simply beautiful that it makes me want to entertain every night, just so we can use them.
What different decisions, if any, would you make for your registry if you knew then what you knew now? I wouldn’t register at so many places–I would keep it to a maximum of three. It was very hard to keep all of ours organized when it came to returns and duplicates.

What most makes your house feel like home? Our art–each piece contains meaning. We can both tell you which artist or friend painted each piece, or why we picked it up at the thrift store. A commissioned photograph by Andy Detwiler of Paradise Park, the honky-tonk in Nashville where we first met, hangs in our living room above a side table. Our art is a constant reminder of our journey before and after we met.
Where do you splurge and where do you save when decorating? I splurge on textiles–fabric and rugs and pillows! As a designer, I have access to amazing fine furniture brands, but you can’t beat a good thrift store find. I’m always searching for one-of-a-kind chairs to recover, wooden side tables, and even lamps. In fact, some of my favorite finds in our condo are the lamps–we have a pair of brass lamps on our nightstands and the lamp that rests on the campaign-style side table in our living room were found at local Tampa thrift stores (I have the most luck at Salvation Army). Unique pieces really bring a lot character and soul to our space.

Who cooks dinner? We usually both cook. Dave will grill and I’m usually in charge of the sides. Making dinner is our time together after work to catch up and hang out with one another.
What is your go-to weeknight meal? Weekend meal? During the week, we try our best to be healthy, with dishes like spinach salad with pecans, cranberries, goat cheese, and grilled chicken, dressed with a honey walnut vinaigrette. We have three adorable nieces and nephews that we enjoy being close to now that we live in Tampa, so our favorite weekend meal is spent at my in-laws’ house each Sunday evening. The meal is secondary to the company!
What’s your favorite place to find recipes? When I travel, I will often pick up a new cookbook to remind of us our trip. One of my favorites is the Magnolia Bakery Cookbook I bought a few years ago in Charleston. Food stains coat the pages, I use it so much!

How does your family handle finances? We are both frugal, so we never worry about who is spending what on what. We did set a limit on what we can purchase without having to consult the other one–if were going to make a purchase greater than $500, it would need to be a discussion.
What’s your best tip for balancing your relationship and other life priorities? Make your spouse your first priority. Consider your spouse in your plans, making him aware of what and when you are doing things. It’s always nice to be in the loop!

What is one small way you love or serve your spouse? I always fold his clothes and put them away.
Do you have children? We are enjoying being an aunt and uncle right now to our adorable nieces and nephew. I do tell them there are cousins coming, just not sure when!
Is there anything else about your home or family life that you think our readers would be interested in? “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3

We’re so grateful to Jordan and Dave for sharing their hearts and home with us! Be sure to follow along with Jordan on her Instagram.

A little reminder: we’d love to hear from you! Our hope is to feature REAL couples in the South – not just folks who write blogs (though we love them, too!), but also your inspiring friend, super talented cousin, or neighbor with the cutest house – the kind of person everyone would love to “e-meet.” If that sounds like you or someone you know, take a peek at our Southern Newlywed submission page and shoot us an email!

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Allyson reply

    I love those blue and green shams! Any chance we can find out where they’re from??

  2. avatar Jordan reply

    Hi there!

    The bedding is from Matouk. Hemingway Collection. Glad you liked it!

  3. avatar Rachel Nordgren reply

    There is absolutely nothing about this home tour that I don’t LOVE! Such a fun mix of color and texture that works together so well to tell their story!

  4. avatar julie reply

    jordan is a true talent and a wonderful girl! love seeing her fabulous home

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