Hi friends! After our very old-school question of a few weeks ago, I’m back with a very modern one today. Kristin sent me a one-sentence missive (I appreciate a girl who gets to the point) with a simple question: “Do you think it’s appropriate to ask someone to be your bridesmaid in an email?”
The short answer? No, I don’t think it’s appropriate. If you’re asking someone to be your bridesmaid, it should mean she’s a close friend or family member, someone whom you know quite well and really value having in your life. Asking her to stand beside you on your big day is a way of recognizing that bond, and thanking her for it. It’s nice to commemorate the occasion with something more than an email.
But what? If you live nearby, asking her out for a meal – whether dinner, brunch, or cupcakes and coffee – is a lovely gesture. If she lives halfway across the country, you still have meaningful options. The simplest would be to pick up the phone and call. Or, for those of you more technically savvy, it could be fun to arrange a Skype call. (That way, you can see her happy surprise! Or, if you’re feeling particularly ambitious, you could Love, Actually style and prepare some cardboard signs to reveal your intentions. By the way, Best. Movie. Ever? Yes, I think so.).
Or perhaps a card is more your style. You can get very elaborate, with a pictorial representation of your relationship through the years and a novel about how much she means to you, but a store-bought card with a sincere note will stand in nicely, too. There is certainly no shortage of DIY inspiration or ready-made options:
Image credits, clockwise: Martha Stewart Weddings, Once Wed, Sweet Bella Cards, Lilly Pink Paperie.
What do y’all think? Are there any occasions when an email is appropriate? How did you ask your bridesmaids to stand beside you?
As always, feel free to email me your etiquette conundrums for a future column! I’m emily at iloveswmag dot com.
All header images c/o Millie Holloman