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Of all the things that go into creating a wedding day–the guest list, the invitations, the sparklers for a celebratory send-off–the vows are the only things that actually make a marriage. Your vows are your chance to declare to your world the things that you will honor in your marriage, and the things that you will abide by for the rest of your life. What an amazing opportunity, y’all!

If you’ve decided to write personal wedding vows, we’d love to share our step-by-step process with you today. And BONUS! Sign up for our newsletter here to be sent nine of our favorite romantic and meaningful vow examples–a perfect jumping off point as you’re looking for inspiration!

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Our Vows Booklet Set: the perfect place to record your vows for posterity, and read from during your ceremony!

Get inspired. As early as you’d like, start a repository of inspiration for your vows–virtual (like Google Docs) or physical (like a notebook). And remember, inspiration can be everywhere: weddings you attend; wedding magazines, blogs, or films; books you read; songs you hear; lines of scripture. If a sentiment, line, or phrase resonates with you, jot it down–don’t worry about editing at this point.

Mine your past. If you are lucky enough to have love letters (or emails or texts–this is the twenty-first century!) you’ve written each other over the years, break them out! They can be a great source of inspiration, and a wonderful way to include parts of your past in your future.

Set parameters. Decide whether you’ll jointly write one set of vows that you’ll both recite, or if you’ll each write individual vows. If you’re writing individual vows, consider setting up basic guidelines so they aren’t wildly different: perhaps they’ll both last 30 seconds or a minute, or they’ll both take the form of promises, or they’ll both include an anecdote from your past.

Start early. These are lifelong promises, not something to be jotted down the night before the wedding (or, God forbid, the morning of). About a month before the big day is a good time to sort your inspiration and begin a draft. Your groom might need a little prodding to get going–be gentle.

Write a draft. Block out a space of time when you don’t have other commitments or things weighing on your mind, and begin sifting through your inspiration. Pull out the best pieces, and begin forming them into a coherent whole. Add and subtract, write and rewrite until you’re happy with what you have.

Revisit your draft. Set your draft aside for a few days, then come back to it with fresh eyes. Make sure your words sound like YOU, not like what you think vows should sound like.

Try it out loud. Make sure the words and sentences flow well and that there aren’t any tongue twisters. Adjust awkward lines. Be sure to time yourself to make sure you’re not running too long. And when in doubt, cut it out: short and sweet is almost always preferable to directionless rambling. Pick the most important points and make them well.

Take it seriously. Personal vows can be funny and sweet and touching and, well, personal. But they’re also made up of the things you are vowing to abide by for the rest of your marriage. That is no small thing, and it deserves your time, attention, and seriousness.

Ensure a smooth delivery. Whether or not you plan to memorize your vows, make sure you write out at least two copies for your big day. Put one in our vows booklet set for posterity and for reading from during your ceremony, and give a back-up copy on an index card to your officiant or maid of honor.

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emily Written with love by Emily
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Though we love providing y’all with inspiration and practical advice, possibly the most rewarding part of our job is creating products that will live in your homes and at your weddings, helping you to celebrate the things that are most important. And we won’t pretend—we make the things we’d love to have and can’t find anywhere else!

Today, we are thrilled to introduce you to two new products in the Southern Weddings Shop!

Our Welcome Home Guestbook is a place for your friends and family to record the memories that they make at your home—anything from the first dinner you host as newlyweds, to Friday night movie marathons, to Thanksgiving as one big family. My favorite part of this guestbook is that it’s something you can start together, whether you’re dating or have been married for years!

The Welcome Home Guestbooks come in coral, blue, and natural linen. Each is foil-stamped with hand lettering from Hand Lettered Designs!

Our Vows Booklet Sets are a sweet place to write down your wedding day vows. At less than 4 inches wide, they’re small and beautiful enough to carry down the aisle and read from on your wedding day. Knowing this, we partnered with Moya Minns of MM Ink Studio for our cover calligraphy—we know her styles are timeless and that these booklets will look just as beautiful for years to come.

The Vows Booklet sets are available in blue and cream. I love the covers of each of these little booklets—they’re soft to the touch, and embossed with Moya’s calligraphy.

Find these and all of our products in the Southern Weddings Shop!

nicoleyang Written with love by Nicole
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