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And you thought the logistics were over once you said your I do’s! Changing your name can seem like one of those tasks that drags on forever (I speak from personal experience!), but our checklist will at least help you track your progress, and our tips might make things a little easier. And if you’re not planning to change your name? Just sit back and enjoy that new husband of yours!

P.S. Ready for even more tips for newlywed life? Purchase the Southern Weddings Planner! It has an entire section devoted to getting you off on the right foot :)

To do: Get your marriage license
Fee: About $20
Notes: An original, or certified, copy of your marriage license will be required before you speak to other agencies. Call the clerk’s office where your license was filed to get copies.

To do: Change your social security card
Fee: Free
Notes: Fill out the Social Security Administration’s application for a new card. Take or mail your application and required documents to your local SSA office.

To do: Update your driver’s license
Fee: About $10 (usually paid by cash or check)
Notes: In most states, this must be done in person, so prepare yourself for a trip to the DMV. Bring your original license, your marriage certificate, and your new Social Security card. Be sure to wait 24-36 hours after changing your name with the SSA before heading to the DMV.

To do: Update your bank accounts
Fee: Usually free
Notes: Request the change in person at your local branch (bring your new driver’s license and marriage certificate). Ask for new checks and debit and credit cards, as well (there might be a fee for these).

To do: Apply for a new passport
Fee: $140
Notes: The fees and process change depending on whether your current passport was issued within the last year. Except to wait 4-6 weeks for processing. Find more info here.

Checked off all of the above? Use our free downloadable (printer-friendly!) list to guide you as you work through all of the other accounts you might need to update. And here’s a Pinterest-friendly reminder if your wedding isn’t for a few months!

I’d love to hear: did you change your name? How did you find the process? I thought it was fairly painless, but the email switcheroo was probably the worst!

emily Written with love by Emily
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  1. avatar Elyse reply

    My family takes part in a more rare Southern tradition of going by their middle names, started in part out of necessity, by the males in the family (All those James’ get confusing after a while). I am the youngest and only female, but the tradition was kept alive. I am getting married in May and have absolutely no idea how to drop my first name to go by my middle, maiden, and new last name. I have been told it’s much trickier in a post 9/11 world. Any tips for middle namers? Am I the only one with this issue? I know it’s a pretty old tradition, maybe it’s died out?

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It has been a whirlwind month since we launched Fruitful Summer, but even amidst a busy time of year, it has been so…well, fruitful! In case you missed this series on relationships in our e-mail newsletter over the last five weeks, we wanted to share a little recap here on the blog today. There’s lots of fabulous content to be found, thanks to all the gals in our office who contributed, so I hope you’ll take the time to check it out…and sign up for our mailing list so you’re first in line for upcoming newsletters!

Week 1: Welcome!

What’s included: An introduction video from the SW gals, four downloadable recipe cards for fruity twists on sweet tea

Week 2: Letting Go of Perfect and Dating Well

What’s inside: insight from Nicole and Jess, three essential questions to ask yourself in a relationship, how to find your couple superpower, conversation starters, encouragement to make your own timeline, a downloadable list of fun things to do together, creative date ideas

Week 3: Embracing Awkward While Planning Your Wedding

What’s inside: advice from Kristin and me, encouragement about what really matters, tips for making the most of a tough conversation (about things like finances/the budget, wedding priorities, the guest list, who to include in your wedding party, and difficult family dynamics), conversation starters to break the ice, and fun ways to feel like a team with your fiancé

Week 4: Keep Going in Newlywed Life

What’s inside: encouragement and ideas from Emily and Marissa, tips for making “adulting” more fun, a colorful chore chart, ways to keep learning about each other, nine questions with answers you may not know

Week 5: Celebrate Marriage

What’s inside: encouragement from Lara and Amber, the story of Lara’s perfectly imperfect 10-year anniversary celebration, ideas for big and small occasions to celebrate, a list of ways to celebrate, a celebration-ready checklist, marriage superlatives to award one another

We’d love to know, which week resonated with you most? And did you try any of our fruity sweet tea recipes? :)

lisa Written with love by Lisa

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While the number of wedding gown options may feel a little overwhelming when you start dress shopping, here’s the good news: it means there’s something out there for every bride! Whether you’re a classic gal through and through, or you’re looking for something that will make a major statement, the details are what set one white dress apart from another. Allure Bridals’ Fall 2016 collection is all about those details, and from beading, to floral appliqués, to dramatic backs, to perfect draping, each dress is designed to make a bride feel special and like herself on her big day. Even though none of the SW gals are in a wedding dress shopping season right now, we each picked a favorite dress from Allure’s newest Bridals, Romance, and Couture collections–here are the styles that stood out to us!

Lisa‘s favorite: Allure 2951
“I always love a classic ball gown with a twist, and I think this dress would make any bride feel like a modern Grace Kelly! The ivory lace combined with palest blush satin is elegant, but memorable.”

Marissa‘s favorite: Allure C380
“The dramatic crystal beadwork and layers upon layers of organza ruffles on this dress give me all the heart eyes. Perfect for a black-tie wedding, this dress is a showstopper in my book!”

Nicole‘s favorite: Allure 2966
“I love when a wedding dress combines sweet lace and an easy silhouette with a show-stopping details, like a blush underlay, beaded back, and killer train! This dress would make any bride feel at home in her skin while wearing it, but is also worthy of being worn on the most special day of her life!”

Amber‘s favorite: Allure 9371
“I am in love with this gorgeous lace sheath that is the perfect combination of romance and style. The detailing around the neckline and the dramatic back are sure to wow everyone as you walk down the aisle and dance the night away!”

Emily‘s favorite: Allure 2959
“I am a sucker for big skirts and sweetheart necklines–it’s what I chose for my own wedding day! The lace detail and scalloped hem on this beauty are perfectly feminine and romantic.”

Kristin‘s favorite: Allure 9357
“While I’m traditionally a ‘the simpler, the better’ kind of gal, this satin beaded ball gown has won my heart. The detailing on the bodice is a fun way to add some sparkle to a timeless silhouette!”

Jess‘ favorite: Allure 2953
“We all know that on your wedding day, all eyes are on the bride, so make sure the back of your dress is just as beautiful as the front! The combination of tulle, lace, and buttons down the back of this gown provide just enough interest, while still letting the bride shine on her special day!”

Love these dresses as much as we do, or do you have a different top pick? Find your nearest Allure retailer to see where you can try them on in person!

This post is brought to you by Allure Bridals–thanks for your support of the brands that make Southern Weddings possible!

lisa Written with love by Lisa

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